Last night in New Orleans, the green fairy visited. She dusted me with pixie dust and I was lucky enough to meet a wonderful gentleman, Blake. He is with the Big Easy in an offical capacity and even showed me his shiny new badge. However the most interesting part of our discussion was about manners! He shared all kinds of intersting tidbits with me over our drinks.
For instance: Do you know why you lift your little pinky when partaking liquid? It is because in the days of rampant syphillis people's hands shook so they had to hold onto their glasses so as not to spill. If you were not diseased it would be easy to hold your pinky up and show everyone you were disease free!
Isn't that clever! I love it and think my new found friend in the Big Easy is fabulous...
xoxoAmanda
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
New Year, it's a TEN
I'm celebrating the New Year in the Big Easy and I have to say, it's easy. I wasn't 100% because of some very bad mannered situations. A police officer yelling at me, the valet at the hotel ignoring me for a buxom blonde with an ex football player, but then I got into the French Quarter and was satiated with good mannered service people. The tourists, not so much.
In the heart of the big easy is Du Monde's. Life cannot be more perfect sitting by the French doors, drinking coffee eating benginets. Even the Asian waitress's add to the picture of, where am I, Vietnam perhaps...oh no, it's way to cold.
I hope everyone has a TEN year!
Happy Holiday and good manners to you.
xoxoAmanda
In the heart of the big easy is Du Monde's. Life cannot be more perfect sitting by the French doors, drinking coffee eating benginets. Even the Asian waitress's add to the picture of, where am I, Vietnam perhaps...oh no, it's way to cold.
I hope everyone has a TEN year!
Happy Holiday and good manners to you.
xoxoAmanda
Thursday, December 24, 2009
It's Almost Over
The holidays are coming to an end. Thank goodness, because they're affecting everyone. Look at these crazies just breaking into dance!
Share your love and affection.
Have a Happy Holiday.
xoxoAmanda
Share your love and affection.
Have a Happy Holiday.
xoxoAmanda
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Holiday Office Parties
OMG, this is an oxymoron...how can you have a holiday party at your office? Office/Party is impossible. You can not party at your office. You can pretend and make a video about perfect manners at your office, but seriously, office parties cannote sex, booze and a free for all in the lobby fountain. At least that was what the office parties were like when I attended them.
Happily married couples are the first to arrive and first to leave, in about 45 minutes. You can set your watch on them. Unhappily married people do not attend as a couple. You will see them arrive, but never see them leave and with whom they leave with.
If you go out with the cute babe you've been hoping to get up enough courage to ask out after the office party, beware, you will never go out with her again, no matter what happens. She won't remember what happened and will figure it was embarrassing. It was embarrassing just to be out with you in the first place.
Office parties are a must attend, just like the silly video says. But if you have good manners, you won't stay long, won't eat anything, and only drink a non-alcholic beverage...then go out with your buddies and tie one on and really celebrate the holidays!
Happy Holidays,they're almost over!!!!
xoxoAmanda
Happily married couples are the first to arrive and first to leave, in about 45 minutes. You can set your watch on them. Unhappily married people do not attend as a couple. You will see them arrive, but never see them leave and with whom they leave with.
If you go out with the cute babe you've been hoping to get up enough courage to ask out after the office party, beware, you will never go out with her again, no matter what happens. She won't remember what happened and will figure it was embarrassing. It was embarrassing just to be out with you in the first place.
Office parties are a must attend, just like the silly video says. But if you have good manners, you won't stay long, won't eat anything, and only drink a non-alcholic beverage...then go out with your buddies and tie one on and really celebrate the holidays!
Happy Holidays,they're almost over!!!!
xoxoAmanda
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
It's the Holidays
Happy Holidays to all of you. This is the good mannered way to greet someone during this season of holidays. Yes, there is more than one holiday going on here and it's rude to just assume one is Christian. I for one am tired of people pegging me as a Christian. My religion is my own business.
Last year instead of sending Christmas cards, I sent Kwanza cards. I want everyone I know to be aware there are other holidays, plus it made everyone I sent the cards too look politically correct.
So this year, don't celebrate the same old holiday...put some spice in your life and pick a new holiday. Learn all about it, follow it's traditions and eat those holiday foods indicative to that holiday....trust me, you'll be glad you did.
xoxoAmanda
Last year instead of sending Christmas cards, I sent Kwanza cards. I want everyone I know to be aware there are other holidays, plus it made everyone I sent the cards too look politically correct.
So this year, don't celebrate the same old holiday...put some spice in your life and pick a new holiday. Learn all about it, follow it's traditions and eat those holiday foods indicative to that holiday....trust me, you'll be glad you did.
xoxoAmanda
Saturday, December 5, 2009
Shop Your Brains Out
OMG it's here...the shopping season. When you think about it, it's a lot like hunting season. You go out and plunder the store looking for deals. When you find a deal, you flush it out, then buy it, take it home and wrap it up and give it to the one you love...just like a cave man.
What is this obsession with buying stuff? If you're going to buy stuff, why don't you buy stuff to make stuff, like candy, or cookies or one armed sweaters. Anything you make, even if it gets thrown away is worth so much more than what you go out and purchase that is made in a foreign country increasing our national debt. Seriously, think of the memories and laughs your home made gift will give. It will be remembered for years and be part of the annual Holiday stories that are told.
So forget shopping and make something.
xoxoAmanda
What is this obsession with buying stuff? If you're going to buy stuff, why don't you buy stuff to make stuff, like candy, or cookies or one armed sweaters. Anything you make, even if it gets thrown away is worth so much more than what you go out and purchase that is made in a foreign country increasing our national debt. Seriously, think of the memories and laughs your home made gift will give. It will be remembered for years and be part of the annual Holiday stories that are told.
So forget shopping and make something.
xoxoAmanda
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Shopaholics!
EGAD...it's here. The season to shop. How did the holidays become the season for black? Black as in financial report for stores? Isn't the season supposed to be about giving and not buying!!!
There are so many ways to give that don't cost you a red penny. That's right all money turns red when it leaves your hand and enters their cash register...black for them, red for you.
Think about your friends and relatives and what they truly need. Most of us need time. Think about what you are good at and offer your time. This is a FABULOUS gift. You can babysit, take a youngster to a movie, take your Mom to the library, play checkers with your grandpa...there are so many things to do that will be so much more appreciated than an electric razor!
What's with that anyway...why do all the electric razor commercials come out during the holidays?
Good manners is about giving...express yourself...give a lot.
xoxoAmanda
There are so many ways to give that don't cost you a red penny. That's right all money turns red when it leaves your hand and enters their cash register...black for them, red for you.
Think about your friends and relatives and what they truly need. Most of us need time. Think about what you are good at and offer your time. This is a FABULOUS gift. You can babysit, take a youngster to a movie, take your Mom to the library, play checkers with your grandpa...there are so many things to do that will be so much more appreciated than an electric razor!
What's with that anyway...why do all the electric razor commercials come out during the holidays?
Good manners is about giving...express yourself...give a lot.
xoxoAmanda
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Thanksgiving Manners Post Dinner
Thanksgiving is over...or at least the dinner. No one can seem to stuff one more piece of turkey, spoon one more scoop of mashed potatoes or fork in another bite of pumpkin pie. A little moaning and some groaning is going on and hopefully a burp or two of relief...don't forget to say EXCUSE me when bodily air escapes.
As a guest, it is your job to offer to clean up. When refused, carry some dishes to the kitchen anyway. Be mindful that the best china may have been used. Do not stack the dishes. Ask the host what they would prefer you do. Some hosts prefer to leave the mess behind closed doors. OBEY, that is what a good guest does.
People are leaving. A good mannered host, has plates of leftovers ready for their departing guests. A well mannered guest does not expect leftovers and may NOT ask for any, unless all the other guests have left and you are helping the host store leftovers away. Then if you notice an abundance of leftovers, you may ask.
As we say in the real world, "no pain, no gain". You didn't cook, you don't get leftovers.
xoxoAmanda
As a guest, it is your job to offer to clean up. When refused, carry some dishes to the kitchen anyway. Be mindful that the best china may have been used. Do not stack the dishes. Ask the host what they would prefer you do. Some hosts prefer to leave the mess behind closed doors. OBEY, that is what a good guest does.
People are leaving. A good mannered host, has plates of leftovers ready for their departing guests. A well mannered guest does not expect leftovers and may NOT ask for any, unless all the other guests have left and you are helping the host store leftovers away. Then if you notice an abundance of leftovers, you may ask.
As we say in the real world, "no pain, no gain". You didn't cook, you don't get leftovers.
xoxoAmanda
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Thanksgiving is fast approaching gentle hostess with the mostess...
Of course you stress out over Thanksgiving. It's a holiday that you spend days preparing for, hours to cook and it seriously only lasts about 45 minutes depending on how good the table conversation is. Why do we do this to ourselves? Because we are suckers for adulation. It is the one time when a commoner who doesn't have a publicist can become a celebrity. If we preare a sumptuous meal that people enjoy...and if you make them wait an extra hour, they will be starving so they'll love it, we are the stars.
In this day an age when we rarely feel appreciated, Thanksgiving offers accolades for cooks everywhere. At the end of the dinner take a bow and let someone else clean up. Trust me, the chipped plate or broken stuben glass won't be missed. You deserve to put your feet up and have that last glass of wine from the bottle you hid in the back of the refrigerator.
xoxoAmanda
In this day an age when we rarely feel appreciated, Thanksgiving offers accolades for cooks everywhere. At the end of the dinner take a bow and let someone else clean up. Trust me, the chipped plate or broken stuben glass won't be missed. You deserve to put your feet up and have that last glass of wine from the bottle you hid in the back of the refrigerator.
xoxoAmanda
Friday, November 20, 2009
More Thanksgiving Manners
Who doesn't love Adam Sandler's crazy songs...
Thanksgiving is fast approaching...it will be here before you know it, then it will be gone and all that will be left will be an abhorrance to anything pumpking and loss of memory from too much drinking.
Remember when you were little and couldn't wait for Thanksgiving to arrive. The whole family came and you sat down to a wonderful feast that was a hundred times better than the one you had to have at school to re-enact the original Thanksgiving.
Life was so much simpler then. You got to eat only your favorite foods, mashed potatoes and cranberry relish and finish everyone's glass of wine when you cleared the table. Life couldn't get any better.
But now you're an adult and you'll be criticized both for eating only mashed potatoes and cranberry relish and finishing other's drinks when you clear the table.
That's because we're supposed to know better. I'm not sure what we know better. Thanksgiving is not as much fun anymore and usually ends up with someone crying, someone drunk and someone yelling and ironically this can all be the same person!
What to do?
Have Thanksgiving dinner while watching the movie, 'A Christmas Story.' You won't have to talk; so everyone will enjoy their dinner, eating what ever they want and drinking how much they want because...no one will be watching them. Everyone will be watching the movie.
There will be more Thanksgiving manners to come...I promise.
xoxoAmanda
Thanksgiving is fast approaching...it will be here before you know it, then it will be gone and all that will be left will be an abhorrance to anything pumpking and loss of memory from too much drinking.
Remember when you were little and couldn't wait for Thanksgiving to arrive. The whole family came and you sat down to a wonderful feast that was a hundred times better than the one you had to have at school to re-enact the original Thanksgiving.
Life was so much simpler then. You got to eat only your favorite foods, mashed potatoes and cranberry relish and finish everyone's glass of wine when you cleared the table. Life couldn't get any better.
But now you're an adult and you'll be criticized both for eating only mashed potatoes and cranberry relish and finishing other's drinks when you clear the table.
That's because we're supposed to know better. I'm not sure what we know better. Thanksgiving is not as much fun anymore and usually ends up with someone crying, someone drunk and someone yelling and ironically this can all be the same person!
What to do?
Have Thanksgiving dinner while watching the movie, 'A Christmas Story.' You won't have to talk; so everyone will enjoy their dinner, eating what ever they want and drinking how much they want because...no one will be watching them. Everyone will be watching the movie.
There will be more Thanksgiving manners to come...I promise.
xoxoAmanda
Monday, November 16, 2009
Table Manners
The Holidays are coming! While we all anticipate Thanksgiving, most times we are disappointed after the event. Why? Because Thanksgiving is like giving birth. We anticipate this delicious dinner with a Mom serving in her 1950's apron, the perfect turkey, the buffet table lined with all the side dishes we remember, prepared exactly like we remember and everyone sitting down in nice clothes with interesting converstation to go around.
In reality, when the dinner is finally put on the table, it is painfully not like anything we usually conjure up in our imagination. The turkey is full of antibiotics and practially glows, no one makes green bean casserole anymore. Who has a Mom that cooks? And all we can talk about is being laid off and pounding the pavement for job opportunites. So we drown our sorrows and get sloshingly drunk.
But it can be different...I promise and as you know, Amanda Piper-Smith, never breaks a promise. All this week I will give tips on how to have a Norman Rockwell Thanksgiving...okay maybe a Picassoish one.
xoxoAmandahttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OExMdKFhDNs
In reality, when the dinner is finally put on the table, it is painfully not like anything we usually conjure up in our imagination. The turkey is full of antibiotics and practially glows, no one makes green bean casserole anymore. Who has a Mom that cooks? And all we can talk about is being laid off and pounding the pavement for job opportunites. So we drown our sorrows and get sloshingly drunk.
But it can be different...I promise and as you know, Amanda Piper-Smith, never breaks a promise. All this week I will give tips on how to have a Norman Rockwell Thanksgiving...okay maybe a Picassoish one.
xoxoAmandahttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OExMdKFhDNs
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Basic Manners
Basic Manners are just that....basic. There seems to be a wave in the U.S. about getting back to basics. Not spending a lot of money on foolish items we don't need. Manners are basic ways of interacting with people and they don't cost a thing! Besides being free, they actually make you feel good and others feel good about you too, so they are priceless.
Here are some basic manners: You know all of them, you've just forgotten to use them. Some of them are as simple as a word.
Smile...who can resist a sincere smile. Whomever you smile at will smile back and before you know it, everyone will be smiling.
Hello....remember this? Try greeting everyone you come incontact with by saying hello.
Excuse me...this is a great one. It comes in ever so handy in many ways.
Open the door for someone.
Hold the door open for someone.
Practice at least one of these everyday and before you know it...everyone around you, including yourself will feel happier. I guarentee it.
xoxoAmanda
Here are some basic manners: You know all of them, you've just forgotten to use them. Some of them are as simple as a word.
Smile...who can resist a sincere smile. Whomever you smile at will smile back and before you know it, everyone will be smiling.
Hello....remember this? Try greeting everyone you come incontact with by saying hello.
Excuse me...this is a great one. It comes in ever so handy in many ways.
Open the door for someone.
Hold the door open for someone.
Practice at least one of these everyday and before you know it...everyone around you, including yourself will feel happier. I guarentee it.
xoxoAmanda
Thursday, October 29, 2009
More Halloween Manners
Yes, I can go on and on about Halloween Manners...
Remember when you were a kid and decided to do a group costume, then when you walked out the door to pick up the other kids, there they were in a different costume than yours....
Halloween is like prom for kids. It's a chance for kids to dress up and express themselves. But, of course there are always the spoil sports who have no manners.
If you're going to change the costume, let everyone know. Also, if you're having a Halloween party, you need to invite everyone. Who knows, the dorky kid may not be so dorky when he or she's behind a mask. Some people are just shy.
In this day of H1N1 flu I think I would forego the bobbing for apples. But the peeled grape eyeballs are always a hit!
Tomorrow: Part Three and then I promise, no more Halloween Manners until next year!
xoxoAmanda
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HoXA3JL3Ggk
Remember when you were a kid and decided to do a group costume, then when you walked out the door to pick up the other kids, there they were in a different costume than yours....
Halloween is like prom for kids. It's a chance for kids to dress up and express themselves. But, of course there are always the spoil sports who have no manners.
If you're going to change the costume, let everyone know. Also, if you're having a Halloween party, you need to invite everyone. Who knows, the dorky kid may not be so dorky when he or she's behind a mask. Some people are just shy.
In this day of H1N1 flu I think I would forego the bobbing for apples. But the peeled grape eyeballs are always a hit!
Tomorrow: Part Three and then I promise, no more Halloween Manners until next year!
xoxoAmanda
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HoXA3JL3Ggk
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Halloween Manners
Of course there are manners for Halloween. The most obvious one is: DO NOT steal candy from little kids. That is so mean. It's okay to trade candy, but no stealing.
Of course it's also bad manners to eat so much candy you puke. That is a very painful way to make yourself sick. Trust me on this, I know. The goodness of the candy only lasts about five minutes.
Trick or Treating is so different than when I was a kid. I'm going to date myself, but I remember that my parents would let me wander around town until all hours, by myself, knocking on strangers doors! I remember once when I was eight I realized I had been walking away from my house since 6:30pm when it got dark until 11:00pm. I was a very long way from home...I don't remember when I got home, but even I was concerned.
No one seemed to mind. My brothers grabbed my FULL bag and switched out all their bad candy for what they thought was good. They didn't know just how good those 'Baked Bean' peanuts were, or the wax lips, or dots and other candy I learned to like.
Happy Halloween,
xoxoAmanda
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EmDtWz27ueI
Of course it's also bad manners to eat so much candy you puke. That is a very painful way to make yourself sick. Trust me on this, I know. The goodness of the candy only lasts about five minutes.
Trick or Treating is so different than when I was a kid. I'm going to date myself, but I remember that my parents would let me wander around town until all hours, by myself, knocking on strangers doors! I remember once when I was eight I realized I had been walking away from my house since 6:30pm when it got dark until 11:00pm. I was a very long way from home...I don't remember when I got home, but even I was concerned.
No one seemed to mind. My brothers grabbed my FULL bag and switched out all their bad candy for what they thought was good. They didn't know just how good those 'Baked Bean' peanuts were, or the wax lips, or dots and other candy I learned to like.
Happy Halloween,
xoxoAmanda
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EmDtWz27ueI
Monday, October 26, 2009
Good Manners in the ER
I spent five hours in the ER in Key West yesterday because a friend had an accident. He's okay, very uncomfortable, but alive...maybe the fall jostled something in his head that will keep him from wearing CROCs on a roof to clean out gutters with water. This is the number one reason why, Jews, don't clean gutters...
Anyway, I just wanted to share what good manners the administration, nurses and docs all were. They were pleasant and came out and made you feel like they were sincerely concerned. It was very busy for a Sunday, there were two air lifts out and several ambulance arrivals. Plus, I think there was some H1N1 (I'm not calling it swine flu remember, it's not the poor piggys fault).
So KUDOS to the Key West ER and this is coming from a doctor's daughter who spent many hours in the ER keeping up with her older brothers.
But who has BAD manners...whom ever owns the shopping center that has the PUBLIX in Key West. You know Publix has built an empire upon it's customer service. Inside the Publix I have always been treated well. It's a point that Publix still offers cart service, but we know most of us refuse it. EVERY Publix in the rest of Florida has a place to put the carts except us. I just came home from dodging about twenty carts! I always return my cart to the store, not inside but below. I actually saw another woman doing just that the other day too! Hooray for her! But if the owner would just have some good manners and give up a few parking spaces for the carts it would be appreciated. Until then....bad manners Mr. Shopping Center Owner...
xoxoAmanda
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9m2FLHlEwA
Anyway, I just wanted to share what good manners the administration, nurses and docs all were. They were pleasant and came out and made you feel like they were sincerely concerned. It was very busy for a Sunday, there were two air lifts out and several ambulance arrivals. Plus, I think there was some H1N1 (I'm not calling it swine flu remember, it's not the poor piggys fault).
So KUDOS to the Key West ER and this is coming from a doctor's daughter who spent many hours in the ER keeping up with her older brothers.
But who has BAD manners...whom ever owns the shopping center that has the PUBLIX in Key West. You know Publix has built an empire upon it's customer service. Inside the Publix I have always been treated well. It's a point that Publix still offers cart service, but we know most of us refuse it. EVERY Publix in the rest of Florida has a place to put the carts except us. I just came home from dodging about twenty carts! I always return my cart to the store, not inside but below. I actually saw another woman doing just that the other day too! Hooray for her! But if the owner would just have some good manners and give up a few parking spaces for the carts it would be appreciated. Until then....bad manners Mr. Shopping Center Owner...
xoxoAmanda
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9m2FLHlEwA
Thursday, October 22, 2009
SEX in the Library
Of course sex in the library is bad manners. But there are other fun things to do there, like check out books, dvd's, get information all for free...the library is an amazing resource. Check It Out....wow that would be a great logo for them.....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kIfXIPzf1wI
xoxoAmanda
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kIfXIPzf1wI
xoxoAmanda
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Manners for Fantasy Fest
For those of you unfamiliar with Fantasy Fest, it's an event that takes place in Key West, Florida the last week in October.
If you think there are no manners for Fantasy Fest…you obviously don’t live in Key West full time. Key West is our community and Fantasy Fest is our way of inviting people in to have fun; to enjoy themselves by living out their fantasy and to spend money! Most of us living in Paradise full time are already living our fantasy by waking up to warm weather in the middle of January; diving the Vandenberg and getting a café con leche on our bike. We Key Wester’s brace ourselves and batten down the hatches for the onslaught of Fantasy Fest, much like a hurricane. If everyone would be a little more considerate of each other, then Fantasy Fest would fulfill my fantasy and make it enjoyable even for the Conchs.
Q. I have been conversing with a woman online for several months. We both live in the Mid-West, but have not met yet. A good friend of mine attends Fantasy Fest in Key West every year and has a blast. I have checked it out online and would like to bring her. Do you think it would be a good idea to bring her to Fantasy Fest for our first date?
A. In a word, no. Fantasy Fest is an outrageous week long party where people loose their inhibitions and anything goes, even though I am trying to enforce good manners…You really need to know the person you are bringing, because it would be very bad manners to impose something you feel perfectly harmless and fun, like walking around in public half naked, on someone who may not agree, but feel pressured to comply because everyone seems to be doing it.
Q. One year I was at the Pretenders in Paradise event during Fantasy Fest and some guy kept yelling for the MC to take off her top. The MC almost had the guy thrown out. Didn’t the heckler have exhibit bad manners?
A. My darling…believe it or not, I was at that same event and I remember that heckler. Ordinarily I detest a heckler, but I sincerely believe that heckler was having fun. Personally, I think it added to the event, but of course some did not. I think a heckle or two, as long as it’s not disparaging in any way, like ‘Hey fatso, whose your Momma?” and not yelled more than twice, is within reason, during Fantasy Fest.
Q. I work in a local retail store in Key West and am amazed at the people that come in to try on clothes, naked in full body paint, drunk at night during Fantasy Fest. What do you think?
A. Seriously, who’s shopping? The people on the street at night during Fantasy Fest generally have no idea what they’re doing and I don’t think you can hold them accountable. Close the store, or make it invitation only and have a special shopping event to watch Fantasy Fest from inside in air conditioning with champagne. Wow, I’d attend that. You know where to reach me…send me an invite.
Q. We are always invited to ride on a float during Fantasy Fest, but I’ve found the riders get too drunk. How can we avoid this?
A. Dancing badly or puking on a Fantasy Fest float is very bad manners! You must make a decision and be firm. You may request that the booze on the float be limited, or that there be no drinking ahead of time or while riding, but remember the ones behaving badly will always do what they want…because they have the bad manners. So you need to find a new float to attach yourself too or forego the riding and find a nice event or cool spot to watch it from. I hear retail store may be having a shopping party. I’ll keep you posted.
Fantasy Fest or just living in paradise can be a challenge especially because it’s a frame of mind. Here are some easy ways to have good manners around town, so we can put some civility back in Key West.
When you see someone drunk, or hurt who has fallen in the street or on the sidewalk. Offer your assistance. I cannot tell you how many people I have helped up from fallen bikes, or tripping on our uneven sidewalks. Of course if they’re swinging mad, then call 911 and stay out of arms reach until the authorities arrive.
If you’re riding your bicycle…follow the rules that vehicles follow for street traffic. STOP at stop signs and stop lights. SIGNAL when you’re making a turn. Actually, it’s legal for bicycles to ride on sidewalks if the street traffic is too dangerous, but must give pedestrians the right of way. YES, IT IS! And PLEASE for goodness sake, go the correct direction in the bike lane.
If some one is really intoxicated, call a cab for them and DO NOT try and tell me you don’t have your cell phone with you, because I just heard it ringing next to me at dinner in my favorite restaurant!
The best part of living in paradise is that no one passes judgment, but that also means that we need to use our own good judgment. Have a fun and safe Fantasy Fest, and try and use your good manners.
Don't forget to listen to me at: KONK1680am at 1:00 est. every Friday, you can go to: KONKam.com and listen online.
xoxo Amanda
If you think there are no manners for Fantasy Fest…you obviously don’t live in Key West full time. Key West is our community and Fantasy Fest is our way of inviting people in to have fun; to enjoy themselves by living out their fantasy and to spend money! Most of us living in Paradise full time are already living our fantasy by waking up to warm weather in the middle of January; diving the Vandenberg and getting a café con leche on our bike. We Key Wester’s brace ourselves and batten down the hatches for the onslaught of Fantasy Fest, much like a hurricane. If everyone would be a little more considerate of each other, then Fantasy Fest would fulfill my fantasy and make it enjoyable even for the Conchs.
Q. I have been conversing with a woman online for several months. We both live in the Mid-West, but have not met yet. A good friend of mine attends Fantasy Fest in Key West every year and has a blast. I have checked it out online and would like to bring her. Do you think it would be a good idea to bring her to Fantasy Fest for our first date?
A. In a word, no. Fantasy Fest is an outrageous week long party where people loose their inhibitions and anything goes, even though I am trying to enforce good manners…You really need to know the person you are bringing, because it would be very bad manners to impose something you feel perfectly harmless and fun, like walking around in public half naked, on someone who may not agree, but feel pressured to comply because everyone seems to be doing it.
Q. One year I was at the Pretenders in Paradise event during Fantasy Fest and some guy kept yelling for the MC to take off her top. The MC almost had the guy thrown out. Didn’t the heckler have exhibit bad manners?
A. My darling…believe it or not, I was at that same event and I remember that heckler. Ordinarily I detest a heckler, but I sincerely believe that heckler was having fun. Personally, I think it added to the event, but of course some did not. I think a heckle or two, as long as it’s not disparaging in any way, like ‘Hey fatso, whose your Momma?” and not yelled more than twice, is within reason, during Fantasy Fest.
Q. I work in a local retail store in Key West and am amazed at the people that come in to try on clothes, naked in full body paint, drunk at night during Fantasy Fest. What do you think?
A. Seriously, who’s shopping? The people on the street at night during Fantasy Fest generally have no idea what they’re doing and I don’t think you can hold them accountable. Close the store, or make it invitation only and have a special shopping event to watch Fantasy Fest from inside in air conditioning with champagne. Wow, I’d attend that. You know where to reach me…send me an invite.
Q. We are always invited to ride on a float during Fantasy Fest, but I’ve found the riders get too drunk. How can we avoid this?
A. Dancing badly or puking on a Fantasy Fest float is very bad manners! You must make a decision and be firm. You may request that the booze on the float be limited, or that there be no drinking ahead of time or while riding, but remember the ones behaving badly will always do what they want…because they have the bad manners. So you need to find a new float to attach yourself too or forego the riding and find a nice event or cool spot to watch it from. I hear retail store may be having a shopping party. I’ll keep you posted.
Fantasy Fest or just living in paradise can be a challenge especially because it’s a frame of mind. Here are some easy ways to have good manners around town, so we can put some civility back in Key West.
When you see someone drunk, or hurt who has fallen in the street or on the sidewalk. Offer your assistance. I cannot tell you how many people I have helped up from fallen bikes, or tripping on our uneven sidewalks. Of course if they’re swinging mad, then call 911 and stay out of arms reach until the authorities arrive.
If you’re riding your bicycle…follow the rules that vehicles follow for street traffic. STOP at stop signs and stop lights. SIGNAL when you’re making a turn. Actually, it’s legal for bicycles to ride on sidewalks if the street traffic is too dangerous, but must give pedestrians the right of way. YES, IT IS! And PLEASE for goodness sake, go the correct direction in the bike lane.
If some one is really intoxicated, call a cab for them and DO NOT try and tell me you don’t have your cell phone with you, because I just heard it ringing next to me at dinner in my favorite restaurant!
The best part of living in paradise is that no one passes judgment, but that also means that we need to use our own good judgment. Have a fun and safe Fantasy Fest, and try and use your good manners.
Don't forget to listen to me at: KONK1680am at 1:00 est. every Friday, you can go to: KONKam.com and listen online.
xoxo Amanda
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Birthday Manners
Believe it or not, some people don't like to celebrate their birthday. It can be for a lot of reasons and usually isn't about their age, but about birthday pasts. For these friends, you shouldn't force them to celebrate their birthday with a surprise party. That would be very bad manners. Instead a quiet dinner with champagne and good friends is the best. Of course unless they are alchoholics...then no champagne.
Birthdays are tricky. Some people are very offended when you don't remember. They pout and feel whomever didn't remember isn't really their friend. This is silly because some people have birthdays that are hard to remember, like December 25th when most people are celebrating someone else's birthday!
It's not bad manners to arrange a celebration of your own if you want. But it is bad manners to ask for gifts.
It's good manners to wish someone a happy birthday even if it's beleated or early. It's bad manners to be offended. Of course it's bad manners to go around wishing happy birthday constantly to the same person...that proves you are inconsiderate and won't calendar your friends birthday.
I have a dear friend whom I used to wish a happy birthday to in July only to find out that their birthday was in October! If someone is consistently confusing your birthday, it's good manners to correct your friend if you do it politely.
Birthdays can be fun...especially if your very young and very old. Of course it's always fun to eat cake and drink champagne. So I say, eat cake at least once a week and drink a flute of champagne...it's someone's birthday someplace...celebrate.
xoxoAmanda
Birthdays are tricky. Some people are very offended when you don't remember. They pout and feel whomever didn't remember isn't really their friend. This is silly because some people have birthdays that are hard to remember, like December 25th when most people are celebrating someone else's birthday!
It's not bad manners to arrange a celebration of your own if you want. But it is bad manners to ask for gifts.
It's good manners to wish someone a happy birthday even if it's beleated or early. It's bad manners to be offended. Of course it's bad manners to go around wishing happy birthday constantly to the same person...that proves you are inconsiderate and won't calendar your friends birthday.
I have a dear friend whom I used to wish a happy birthday to in July only to find out that their birthday was in October! If someone is consistently confusing your birthday, it's good manners to correct your friend if you do it politely.
Birthdays can be fun...especially if your very young and very old. Of course it's always fun to eat cake and drink champagne. So I say, eat cake at least once a week and drink a flute of champagne...it's someone's birthday someplace...celebrate.
xoxoAmanda
Monday, October 12, 2009
Columbus Day
Who is Christopher Columbus anyway?
Is he Italian, Spanish, Portuguese? Was he Jewish with a boatload of Jewish convicts seeking a new life, freedom for gold promised to Queen Isabella?
There are a lot of questions surrounding Christoper Columbus and there seem to be a lot of different answers.
With all of these questions, maybe we should question why we are honoring this man with a holiday. Perhaps it's because America was founded on mans twisted idea of justice. Justice for rapists, thieves and whores. Let these immoral people colonize a new world. Wow, there's a thought!
I do know that Christopher Columbus and his gang had absolutely NO manners. Unfortunately, neither do any gangs seeking to take over, key words, take over, land by force.
All I can say, is wait until the Aliens come. We are going to get what's coming to us.
xoxoAmanda
Is he Italian, Spanish, Portuguese? Was he Jewish with a boatload of Jewish convicts seeking a new life, freedom for gold promised to Queen Isabella?
There are a lot of questions surrounding Christoper Columbus and there seem to be a lot of different answers.
With all of these questions, maybe we should question why we are honoring this man with a holiday. Perhaps it's because America was founded on mans twisted idea of justice. Justice for rapists, thieves and whores. Let these immoral people colonize a new world. Wow, there's a thought!
I do know that Christopher Columbus and his gang had absolutely NO manners. Unfortunately, neither do any gangs seeking to take over, key words, take over, land by force.
All I can say, is wait until the Aliens come. We are going to get what's coming to us.
xoxoAmanda
Sunday, October 11, 2009
The Column That Was Supposed to be In Solares Hill Today!
I'm not going to be preempted so easily, this is my column for this week. If you like it, please let Mark Howell know at Solares Hill: mhowell@keysnews.com
As you can read, the title of my column is Manners for Everyday Situations, but what does that mean? It means it’s a column on how to behave well in any situation. Walking around my home town, Key West and traveling the way I do, I am constantly accosted visually and verbally by someone demonstrating bad manners. Sometimes these affronts are made by upstanding citizens whom have been raised properly and are pillars of our community…and I’m not talking bubbas. Good manners are a necessity for everyone, young and old.
Q. I was listening to your radio show the other Friday and heard one of your call-in’s during your discussion on Wedding Manners. The gentleman on the phone asked if you thought it was good manners for a wedding official to ask beach goers to move and make way for a wedding ceremony. You said yes. I disagree. I was there first.
A. Dear Heart, this is precisely what I am talking about regarding the return of civility. Let’s revisit this question. If the wedding is a large production and will require hours of set up etc. then the official should have roped off the section at the opening of the park so no one would settle in. If the wedding requires ten minutes or so, just for the ceremony itself, I’m sure it would be more benefit to your kind reputation to let the wedding go on instead of being a stinker and saying no. Of course it is totally up to you, but in my opinion, it would be bad manners to say no to a bride on her wedding day when it would take so little to accommodate her dream. And how glorious for you to be able to make someone’s dream come true.
Q. The other day I was at a religious service and so I dressed nicely and what I thought appropriately. A very nice woman who is a highly acclaimed professional came up to me and complimented me. I graciously said thank you and told her where I had purchased my dress and what a bargain it was. Because I had been in the retail business, I mentioned that it had been stained with make-up so I asked for an additional discount, which meant I could not return it. She laughed and said, “I know you were the one who put the lipstick on it!” I was incredibly insulted. First of all I would never do that because of my integrity, and second it was make-up, not lipstick. Was I wrong in feeling insulted?
A. Not in my book! And I happen to be writing a book about manners in the bedroom…. But not to digress, this woman obviously spoke without thinking. This is a classic example of bad manners. I can’t tell you how many times someone writes to me telling me of an absolute jaw dropper someone blurted out, usually at some kind of event. All I can think of is that these people are nervous and what they are thinking somehow makes it out of their mouths. People, please think before you speak. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything. If you must, tape your mouth shut and do NOT drink.
Q. I am not married, but in a happy long term relationship; well meaning friends are always trying to fix me up. At times I go to events without my partner. It is in this situation that my well meaning friends sit me next to a single and give the impression I am looking for a relationship. It usually ends up embarrassing both of us. How do I put a stop to this?
A. My darling friend, I totally relate. I too am in the same situation and while I enjoy reciprocal flirting I try to make it very clear that I am spoken for, even though I never let my partner actually speak for me, au contraire! If you are attending a formal dinner party, gently remind your host that you would like to sit next to...and then name someone safe. However, do not assume, just because someone is married, they are safe, pick a friend. Or if you must sit next to the eligible guest out on the prowl, make sure that you pepper the conversation with juicy tidbits about your adored partner. That usually works for me.
Q. I was in a restaurant and could not believe the woman sitting at a table across from me was not only playing with her hair, she was dropping the loose strands on the floor! We were in a very upscale restaurant. What could I do?
A. Dearest...the only thing you could have done would have been to change seats, so you wouldn’t have to watch. The woman clearly was very nervous, as her hair was falling out. Playing with one’s hair, a dead waste product of our body is indeed gross, especially at the dinner table. Personally, I have never been able to understand the attributes given to the person with the fabulous head of hair. I’ll take my men shaved bald anytime, now that’s a sexy look and so versatile.
Send me the latest manner infraction you’ve observed so we can address it, or for answers to your manner questions or comments, e-mail me at: amandapipersmith@aol.com, or call me during my radio program, Manners for Everyday Situations, at 305-294-2769 from 1:00 to 2:00est. on Fridays live on the air at KONK1630am or KONKAM.com. And check out my blog: amandapipersmith.com for more commentary on what’re good and bad manners.
As you can read, the title of my column is Manners for Everyday Situations, but what does that mean? It means it’s a column on how to behave well in any situation. Walking around my home town, Key West and traveling the way I do, I am constantly accosted visually and verbally by someone demonstrating bad manners. Sometimes these affronts are made by upstanding citizens whom have been raised properly and are pillars of our community…and I’m not talking bubbas. Good manners are a necessity for everyone, young and old.
Q. I was listening to your radio show the other Friday and heard one of your call-in’s during your discussion on Wedding Manners. The gentleman on the phone asked if you thought it was good manners for a wedding official to ask beach goers to move and make way for a wedding ceremony. You said yes. I disagree. I was there first.
A. Dear Heart, this is precisely what I am talking about regarding the return of civility. Let’s revisit this question. If the wedding is a large production and will require hours of set up etc. then the official should have roped off the section at the opening of the park so no one would settle in. If the wedding requires ten minutes or so, just for the ceremony itself, I’m sure it would be more benefit to your kind reputation to let the wedding go on instead of being a stinker and saying no. Of course it is totally up to you, but in my opinion, it would be bad manners to say no to a bride on her wedding day when it would take so little to accommodate her dream. And how glorious for you to be able to make someone’s dream come true.
Q. The other day I was at a religious service and so I dressed nicely and what I thought appropriately. A very nice woman who is a highly acclaimed professional came up to me and complimented me. I graciously said thank you and told her where I had purchased my dress and what a bargain it was. Because I had been in the retail business, I mentioned that it had been stained with make-up so I asked for an additional discount, which meant I could not return it. She laughed and said, “I know you were the one who put the lipstick on it!” I was incredibly insulted. First of all I would never do that because of my integrity, and second it was make-up, not lipstick. Was I wrong in feeling insulted?
A. Not in my book! And I happen to be writing a book about manners in the bedroom…. But not to digress, this woman obviously spoke without thinking. This is a classic example of bad manners. I can’t tell you how many times someone writes to me telling me of an absolute jaw dropper someone blurted out, usually at some kind of event. All I can think of is that these people are nervous and what they are thinking somehow makes it out of their mouths. People, please think before you speak. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything. If you must, tape your mouth shut and do NOT drink.
Q. I am not married, but in a happy long term relationship; well meaning friends are always trying to fix me up. At times I go to events without my partner. It is in this situation that my well meaning friends sit me next to a single and give the impression I am looking for a relationship. It usually ends up embarrassing both of us. How do I put a stop to this?
A. My darling friend, I totally relate. I too am in the same situation and while I enjoy reciprocal flirting I try to make it very clear that I am spoken for, even though I never let my partner actually speak for me, au contraire! If you are attending a formal dinner party, gently remind your host that you would like to sit next to...and then name someone safe. However, do not assume, just because someone is married, they are safe, pick a friend. Or if you must sit next to the eligible guest out on the prowl, make sure that you pepper the conversation with juicy tidbits about your adored partner. That usually works for me.
Q. I was in a restaurant and could not believe the woman sitting at a table across from me was not only playing with her hair, she was dropping the loose strands on the floor! We were in a very upscale restaurant. What could I do?
A. Dearest...the only thing you could have done would have been to change seats, so you wouldn’t have to watch. The woman clearly was very nervous, as her hair was falling out. Playing with one’s hair, a dead waste product of our body is indeed gross, especially at the dinner table. Personally, I have never been able to understand the attributes given to the person with the fabulous head of hair. I’ll take my men shaved bald anytime, now that’s a sexy look and so versatile.
Send me the latest manner infraction you’ve observed so we can address it, or for answers to your manner questions or comments, e-mail me at: amandapipersmith@aol.com, or call me during my radio program, Manners for Everyday Situations, at 305-294-2769 from 1:00 to 2:00est. on Fridays live on the air at KONK1630am or KONKAM.com. And check out my blog: amandapipersmith.com for more commentary on what’re good and bad manners.
Thursday, October 8, 2009
Hotel Room Manners
What are the rules about staying in a hotel? That's what we're going to find out Friday the 9th at 1:00pm est on KONK1680 am.
Personally, I don't believe there are many rules, othere than it's illegal to run a prostitution ring out of the room, or have a party with underage sex and drinking and using illicit drugs. Pretty much what's illegal to do in your house is illegal to do in a rented hotel room, which technically is your home for the time you rent it.
Hotels, have their own unique rules, such as no pets or children.
Hotels can be an exciting change of scenery if your sex life is becomming a bit dull. Who doesn't like room service and maid service? Plus there's the 'do not disturb' sign that you can hang on the door and NO ONE disturbs you. Trust me, this does not work at home, I've tried it!
My rule of thumb for selecting the hotel room itself is that it must be nicer than my bedroom at home. This can prove challenging as my bedroom at home is pretty amazing, fireplace, view, flatscreen...but it lacks the room service and chocolate on the pillow, my two very favorite treats.
Some people don't like to eat in bed. I could live my entire life in bed if I had too, in the right room, with the right person.
Have you ever checked into a hotel room and never left it?
Hotel rooms can be a little slice of heaven or hell, depending upon what you want...
xoxoAmanda
Personally, I don't believe there are many rules, othere than it's illegal to run a prostitution ring out of the room, or have a party with underage sex and drinking and using illicit drugs. Pretty much what's illegal to do in your house is illegal to do in a rented hotel room, which technically is your home for the time you rent it.
Hotels, have their own unique rules, such as no pets or children.
Hotels can be an exciting change of scenery if your sex life is becomming a bit dull. Who doesn't like room service and maid service? Plus there's the 'do not disturb' sign that you can hang on the door and NO ONE disturbs you. Trust me, this does not work at home, I've tried it!
My rule of thumb for selecting the hotel room itself is that it must be nicer than my bedroom at home. This can prove challenging as my bedroom at home is pretty amazing, fireplace, view, flatscreen...but it lacks the room service and chocolate on the pillow, my two very favorite treats.
Some people don't like to eat in bed. I could live my entire life in bed if I had too, in the right room, with the right person.
Have you ever checked into a hotel room and never left it?
Hotel rooms can be a little slice of heaven or hell, depending upon what you want...
xoxoAmanda
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Bar Tender Manners
I covered bar manners a while ago, but last night I really needed to address bar tender. He really had an attitude, the kind that makes New York look bad.
Carlyle Care is a fairly upscale place...in fact over the top expensive. The fee to enter to watch the show is $75.00, this is for standing room and then, there is a $25.00 minimum, so this fellow who was from out of town who wanted to watch Woody Allen with Eddie Davis basically paid $100.00 for the priveledge to stand behind a three foot pillar with a diet coke, but he could listen.
He didn't mind, but what was offensive was the attitude of the bar tender. Apparently, there were other incidents where patrons were not as complacent as this gentleman was to hear Woody and be in the same room. After all you can go on youtube and watch woody allen playing the clarinet, which I highly encourage. Unfortuanately, I have forgotten how to post youtubes in my blog...big cities do that to me. Anyway...at one point a lovely lady paid her $100 plus bill and he yelled at her across the room saying, "Lady, the bill is one-hundred dollars plus!" She stood dumbfounded and he repeated his request louder and directly to her holding her captive with his eyes. He then counted the money in front of him in emphasis and realized...she had given him a $100 bill, not a $1 as he thought, but did he appologize? Yes, but it wasn't effective.
I just didn't understand where he was coming from. The room was aglow with happiness listening to the fabulous rag-time jazz being played, the yummy food and the general all-around conviviality. He needed a real tweak in bar manners and customer service.
Oddly, I have run into this customer service issue before here in NYC. There must be a lot of rude customers, but never the less, all customers should be treated like virgins...indroctinate them gently, carefully and with manners and all of your customers will treat you as nicely as well with respect for you the proprietor.
I promise.
Until then, I will continue to be polite no matter how much the woman serving coffee behind the counter spits at me.
xoxoAmanda
Carlyle Care is a fairly upscale place...in fact over the top expensive. The fee to enter to watch the show is $75.00, this is for standing room and then, there is a $25.00 minimum, so this fellow who was from out of town who wanted to watch Woody Allen with Eddie Davis basically paid $100.00 for the priveledge to stand behind a three foot pillar with a diet coke, but he could listen.
He didn't mind, but what was offensive was the attitude of the bar tender. Apparently, there were other incidents where patrons were not as complacent as this gentleman was to hear Woody and be in the same room. After all you can go on youtube and watch woody allen playing the clarinet, which I highly encourage. Unfortuanately, I have forgotten how to post youtubes in my blog...big cities do that to me. Anyway...at one point a lovely lady paid her $100 plus bill and he yelled at her across the room saying, "Lady, the bill is one-hundred dollars plus!" She stood dumbfounded and he repeated his request louder and directly to her holding her captive with his eyes. He then counted the money in front of him in emphasis and realized...she had given him a $100 bill, not a $1 as he thought, but did he appologize? Yes, but it wasn't effective.
I just didn't understand where he was coming from. The room was aglow with happiness listening to the fabulous rag-time jazz being played, the yummy food and the general all-around conviviality. He needed a real tweak in bar manners and customer service.
Oddly, I have run into this customer service issue before here in NYC. There must be a lot of rude customers, but never the less, all customers should be treated like virgins...indroctinate them gently, carefully and with manners and all of your customers will treat you as nicely as well with respect for you the proprietor.
I promise.
Until then, I will continue to be polite no matter how much the woman serving coffee behind the counter spits at me.
xoxoAmanda
Monday, October 5, 2009
Pet Co is not like the Commercials
I have decided I want to live a Madison Avenue life. Where do these people in marketing come up with these fanciful ideas of how life should be...Has anyone reading this ever been in a real Pet Co.? Egad...it's nothing like the commercial accept for all the animals running around looking for places to mark.
I felt I had walked into zombie-land. It was a place where bad dreams are cultivated. And the smell. Thank goodness there isn't smellavison, because that would seriously kill any pitch Madison Avenue could possibly dream up for Pet Co.
And friends...seriously, people who look like actors, do not work in Pet Co. This is not one of those secret places to go to try and hook-up, like the magazine aisle in Barnes and Noble. There's a secret...
Look, I love animals, I am just not a pet person. I travel too much, I can only keep plants that can survive outside, like indigenous trees and perennials. The only reason I had children, was because I knew one day they would grow up and be able to function on their own and maybe if luck has it...take care of me! But I know this about myself.
Pet Co. is not a place I would put on the must see while traveling. In fact, I would avoid it at all costs.
Click on the link below, but I apologize if it doesn't work. I'm using a friends computer and I'm discombobulated...still from Pet Co.
click here
I felt I had walked into zombie-land. It was a place where bad dreams are cultivated. And the smell. Thank goodness there isn't smellavison, because that would seriously kill any pitch Madison Avenue could possibly dream up for Pet Co.
And friends...seriously, people who look like actors, do not work in Pet Co. This is not one of those secret places to go to try and hook-up, like the magazine aisle in Barnes and Noble. There's a secret...
Look, I love animals, I am just not a pet person. I travel too much, I can only keep plants that can survive outside, like indigenous trees and perennials. The only reason I had children, was because I knew one day they would grow up and be able to function on their own and maybe if luck has it...take care of me! But I know this about myself.
Pet Co. is not a place I would put on the must see while traveling. In fact, I would avoid it at all costs.
Click on the link below, but I apologize if it doesn't work. I'm using a friends computer and I'm discombobulated...still from Pet Co.
click here
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Spanking is good manners at weddings.
I love this video. It shows both the bride and the groom having fun at the wedding. I think the groom has way to much fun at most weddings. Looking at all the videos posted, the guys are stripping, dancing to Thriller, getting drunk and generally all around having a blast o rama.
I think the bride is too caught up in the reception and if anyone's having fun, especially the mother-in-law. Brides shouldn't be allowed to plan their own weddings. They should be given a check list of things they want:
Colors:
Food:
Music:
Groom: etc. Personally I would opt for George Clooney, or maybe not, who knows, but it would be great to have a little surprise once in a while.
Listen in tomorrow, Friday, on KONKAM.com at 1:00est to my show on wedding manners from both sides. Call in and tell us your story: 305-294-2769.
xoxoAmanda
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I think the bride is too caught up in the reception and if anyone's having fun, especially the mother-in-law. Brides shouldn't be allowed to plan their own weddings. They should be given a check list of things they want:
Colors:
Food:
Music:
Groom: etc. Personally I would opt for George Clooney, or maybe not, who knows, but it would be great to have a little surprise once in a while.
Listen in tomorrow, Friday, on KONKAM.com at 1:00est to my show on wedding manners from both sides. Call in and tell us your story: 305-294-2769.
xoxoAmanda
click here
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Wedding Manners
OMG when they can make a television show titled, Bridezilla's, you know weddings are hotbeds for bad manners.
I've been to a lot of weddings, most good, some bad, but only because they were tacky and some wonderful. The most recent wedding that was fabulous was my nephew's in Sonoma. The bride planned everything beautifully. The food was perfect, the setting was perfect and they were sincerely in love. Plus, there were lots of hook-ups so everyone had a great time.
These horrible television weddings have got to be staged! If not we're in a sad place when one of the most eventful days of our lives, turns into a Japanese Monster Movie.
I like to invision what the women featured in this video is like on a daily basis. Where does she work?...possibly in government. When I call up any government office I generally get this type of person who swears a lot or makes me swear a lot or when I call customer service for my internet connection...then I usually end up swearing like this woman. I become a Japanese Monster with fire coming out every orafice. But I won't transgress into customer service...just yet anyway.
Have you got any wedding stories to tell? My next guest on my radio show, Manners for Everyday Situations, Friday at 1:00 on KONKam1680, a local photographer extrordinaire has lots of stories to tell. Not just about the wedding party, but about the officiators as well. Yikes!
xoxoAmanda
click here
I've been to a lot of weddings, most good, some bad, but only because they were tacky and some wonderful. The most recent wedding that was fabulous was my nephew's in Sonoma. The bride planned everything beautifully. The food was perfect, the setting was perfect and they were sincerely in love. Plus, there were lots of hook-ups so everyone had a great time.
These horrible television weddings have got to be staged! If not we're in a sad place when one of the most eventful days of our lives, turns into a Japanese Monster Movie.
I like to invision what the women featured in this video is like on a daily basis. Where does she work?...possibly in government. When I call up any government office I generally get this type of person who swears a lot or makes me swear a lot or when I call customer service for my internet connection...then I usually end up swearing like this woman. I become a Japanese Monster with fire coming out every orafice. But I won't transgress into customer service...just yet anyway.
Have you got any wedding stories to tell? My next guest on my radio show, Manners for Everyday Situations, Friday at 1:00 on KONKam1680, a local photographer extrordinaire has lots of stories to tell. Not just about the wedding party, but about the officiators as well. Yikes!
xoxoAmanda
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Friday, September 18, 2009
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Driving A Taxi
Driving a taxi could be fun, but you've got to have chutspa! Most taxi's I get into in NYC the taxi drivers are pretty nice. But sometimes I think they think I'm stupid and drive circuitously around to get to where I want to go. It's not like they drive to Brooklyn or Jersey, I think I'd know we wouldn't hae to go over a bridge unless I was going out of NYC.
One time my friends and I were going to dinner on 60th street. I suddenly realized we had passed 60th St. long behind. So taking a tip from my daughter I commented loudly that we were WAY past 60th St. and asked him, the taxi driver, what he was doing. He was busted and appologized. Taking a tip from my daughter, the New Yawker, I told him to turn off the meter.
Why aren't there female drivers in NYC? You got questions like me? Call me on Friday at 1:00pm at 305-294-2769!
xoxoAmanda click driving a taxi below and enjoy!
driving a taxi
One time my friends and I were going to dinner on 60th street. I suddenly realized we had passed 60th St. long behind. So taking a tip from my daughter I commented loudly that we were WAY past 60th St. and asked him, the taxi driver, what he was doing. He was busted and appologized. Taking a tip from my daughter, the New Yawker, I told him to turn off the meter.
Why aren't there female drivers in NYC? You got questions like me? Call me on Friday at 1:00pm at 305-294-2769!
xoxoAmanda click driving a taxi below and enjoy!
driving a taxi
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
TAXI Manners
Taxi Click on Taxi to see the video:
You taxi drivers are certainly in your own world. This Friday 09/18/09 Doc Sid will be on my radio show 'Manners for Everyday Situations. You can find it online: www.konkam.com It's 1680 down here in Key West. Doc Sid is a great guy. He is a orthopeadic surgeon, but now drives a taxi. I interviewed him for a short film I did about people who drop out of respectable society positions and do what they want. He has a lot to talk about. In fact he talks a lot... which is why driving a taxi is perfect for him. It gives him a chance to meet new people, and he meets a lot of new people driving a cab in a tourist town.
There are a lot of manners involved in both driving a taxi and being a passenger. I travel to NYC once a month and am an avid subway rider. I used to be a speed demon, but now unless I'm on a freeway (west coast upbringing) I only drive about 40 mph at the most because of the confines of the narrow streets of Key West. The taxi drivers in NYC scare the bejeesus out of me, plus they are super expensive, hot in the summer, cold in the winter and sometimes really smelly. I always am nauseated when I step out of one.
Seriously, I try to be considerate. I always tip at least 20%, my daughter the New Yorker says I overtip and I always tell the driver thank you and to have a nice day or evening, much to my passengers chagrin. Maybe I'm just being labeld a patsy for being too nice...do you think that's it? The taxi drivers in NYC think I'm a patsy and aren't giving me any respect...
Anyway, you should tune into my radio show...it's always fun, we talk about everything. Call me at: 305-294-2769 with your questions or comments. I'll be on Friday at: 1:00pm est.
xoxoAmanda
You taxi drivers are certainly in your own world. This Friday 09/18/09 Doc Sid will be on my radio show 'Manners for Everyday Situations. You can find it online: www.konkam.com It's 1680 down here in Key West. Doc Sid is a great guy. He is a orthopeadic surgeon, but now drives a taxi. I interviewed him for a short film I did about people who drop out of respectable society positions and do what they want. He has a lot to talk about. In fact he talks a lot... which is why driving a taxi is perfect for him. It gives him a chance to meet new people, and he meets a lot of new people driving a cab in a tourist town.
There are a lot of manners involved in both driving a taxi and being a passenger. I travel to NYC once a month and am an avid subway rider. I used to be a speed demon, but now unless I'm on a freeway (west coast upbringing) I only drive about 40 mph at the most because of the confines of the narrow streets of Key West. The taxi drivers in NYC scare the bejeesus out of me, plus they are super expensive, hot in the summer, cold in the winter and sometimes really smelly. I always am nauseated when I step out of one.
Seriously, I try to be considerate. I always tip at least 20%, my daughter the New Yorker says I overtip and I always tell the driver thank you and to have a nice day or evening, much to my passengers chagrin. Maybe I'm just being labeld a patsy for being too nice...do you think that's it? The taxi drivers in NYC think I'm a patsy and aren't giving me any respect...
Anyway, you should tune into my radio show...it's always fun, we talk about everything. Call me at: 305-294-2769 with your questions or comments. I'll be on Friday at: 1:00pm est.
xoxoAmanda
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Machine Manners
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuAt6voOTf4 What do you do when your machine eats your card? Nothing is more frustrating than a machine that malfunctions. How can we hold them accountable? The banking institution that provides the machine refuses to be accountable for the machines malfunction, so what is a consumer to do?
Banks are the bane of our impolite society. They may provide safe storage of money up to $100,000maybe $500,000 now that our dollar is worth less, but seriously what else do they do for us? Remember when banks wooed you to deposit with gifts and high interest? That's how old I am, I remember.
Here's how I get back at banks...I keep as little money as possible in them. When I use their debit/credit card, I always charge it because that costs the bank money. If you use the card as a debit card you will most likely be charged a user fee among other fees. Debit cards are scary. Credit cards are good, but you must pay off your balance every month, otherwise the bank wins again. WRITE checks. Banks do not like checks. But if you get a low check writing account, free checking then you can write checks. Seriously, you won't be writing that many checks. Banks are so inefficient that when you write a check even though it is run through a computerized system they still have a check counter! More inefficiency.
Also, has anyone run into a nice, efficient teller that is well groomed and good mannered? My tellers are all ex-makeup artists for the goth look.
So the question is...where do you keep your $. The stock market. If you're super conservative then buy CD's, but shop around. Use an online bank. After all, your money is seriously only numbers in an account. But online banks pay way more interest and are easier to deal with and very forgiving. If you make a mistake and catch it within 24 hours they waive any fee...try that with a banker.
As far as I'm concerned the only good bank is a blood bank.
Manners for everyday situations,
xoxoAmanda
Banks are the bane of our impolite society. They may provide safe storage of money up to $100,000maybe $500,000 now that our dollar is worth less, but seriously what else do they do for us? Remember when banks wooed you to deposit with gifts and high interest? That's how old I am, I remember.
Here's how I get back at banks...I keep as little money as possible in them. When I use their debit/credit card, I always charge it because that costs the bank money. If you use the card as a debit card you will most likely be charged a user fee among other fees. Debit cards are scary. Credit cards are good, but you must pay off your balance every month, otherwise the bank wins again. WRITE checks. Banks do not like checks. But if you get a low check writing account, free checking then you can write checks. Seriously, you won't be writing that many checks. Banks are so inefficient that when you write a check even though it is run through a computerized system they still have a check counter! More inefficiency.
Also, has anyone run into a nice, efficient teller that is well groomed and good mannered? My tellers are all ex-makeup artists for the goth look.
So the question is...where do you keep your $. The stock market. If you're super conservative then buy CD's, but shop around. Use an online bank. After all, your money is seriously only numbers in an account. But online banks pay way more interest and are easier to deal with and very forgiving. If you make a mistake and catch it within 24 hours they waive any fee...try that with a banker.
As far as I'm concerned the only good bank is a blood bank.
Manners for everyday situations,
xoxoAmanda
Monday, September 14, 2009
Weekend of Bad Manners
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCHgf7PUybA Wow! Could it get much worse. Could we be any more rude. I can assure you Kim Clijsters didn't want to get to the finals because Serena acted so ill-mannered.
Way to go Kim on winning the US Open. You have proved to Moms everywhere that we don't have to sit back and believe it can't happen!
But if that wasn't enough, how about Kayne West...are you kidding me? His Momma needed to give him a few more spankings growing up.
People, keep your opinions to yourself or vent them to friends at the appropriate times. On television is not the time unless you are warranted in doing so. An opinion is just that. Usually a vote or consensus doesn't agree with you and you have lost. Yes, you should keep your opinion and fight for what you believe, but you must also be gracious in losing your battle. There will be other battles and time for redeemtion. If your opinion rings true then it will come to light...but I don't want to hear about it especially when it affects an honest athlete who is trying to play a game, or a singer whose art, (subjective) is considered better or an elected (key word) official is speaking at a formal venue. Must we show the entire world that we have NO manners?
Comeon...where is our civility? Where are our manners!
Everyone needs to do their part to make this world a better place. No one is going to listen to squabbling and fighting anymore. Let's be at peace.
Manners for everyday situations. Think before you speak. Think before you act. Be a better person then you thought possible. You will be taken seriously.
xoxoAmanda
Way to go Kim on winning the US Open. You have proved to Moms everywhere that we don't have to sit back and believe it can't happen!
But if that wasn't enough, how about Kayne West...are you kidding me? His Momma needed to give him a few more spankings growing up.
People, keep your opinions to yourself or vent them to friends at the appropriate times. On television is not the time unless you are warranted in doing so. An opinion is just that. Usually a vote or consensus doesn't agree with you and you have lost. Yes, you should keep your opinion and fight for what you believe, but you must also be gracious in losing your battle. There will be other battles and time for redeemtion. If your opinion rings true then it will come to light...but I don't want to hear about it especially when it affects an honest athlete who is trying to play a game, or a singer whose art, (subjective) is considered better or an elected (key word) official is speaking at a formal venue. Must we show the entire world that we have NO manners?
Comeon...where is our civility? Where are our manners!
Everyone needs to do their part to make this world a better place. No one is going to listen to squabbling and fighting anymore. Let's be at peace.
Manners for everyday situations. Think before you speak. Think before you act. Be a better person then you thought possible. You will be taken seriously.
xoxoAmanda
Friday, September 11, 2009
911 we will never forget
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J0Qu6eyyr4c
Forgiveness is not about forgetting. We as a nation will never forget the horrific dead, a madman inflicted upon our country. We as a world of human beings must stop this anger over diversity. We must realize that we are all the same, yet different and embrace this difference. We must respect this difference. We must put down our guns and stop inflicting our laws upon nations and cultures that are from a different ilk.
What we must do is to allow freedom. Freedom for the oppressed to change their lives. We as a nation cannot impose our freedom upon others, it is up to their people to seek it out. That nation or culture must realize we are a global population and that no culture will survive unless one is free to practice one's own beliefs and allowed the freedom to change.
911 was the most horrific day I can imagine. I hope it never reoccurs anywhere else...but after writing that, I was never a citizen of Afghanistan or any other city that was invaded and destroyed.
Nothing is going to change unless we as human beings change it. The first and foremost way is by respect.
Respect your fellow human being. Respect yourself, teach your children how to respect. If we loose this battle, all will be lost.
Forgiveness is not about forgetting. We as a nation will never forget the horrific dead, a madman inflicted upon our country. We as a world of human beings must stop this anger over diversity. We must realize that we are all the same, yet different and embrace this difference. We must respect this difference. We must put down our guns and stop inflicting our laws upon nations and cultures that are from a different ilk.
What we must do is to allow freedom. Freedom for the oppressed to change their lives. We as a nation cannot impose our freedom upon others, it is up to their people to seek it out. That nation or culture must realize we are a global population and that no culture will survive unless one is free to practice one's own beliefs and allowed the freedom to change.
911 was the most horrific day I can imagine. I hope it never reoccurs anywhere else...but after writing that, I was never a citizen of Afghanistan or any other city that was invaded and destroyed.
Nothing is going to change unless we as human beings change it. The first and foremost way is by respect.
Respect your fellow human being. Respect yourself, teach your children how to respect. If we loose this battle, all will be lost.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
YOU LIE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W0PqBiNUyqU Joe Wilson is a powerful fool. He breaks my heart with his disrespect and his parties disrespect for the Obama presidency. If he believes so strongly about the President lying, then he should have been the one to retort against Obama's Health Care Proposal on camera instead of having admittedly a ineffectual, with nothing to loose.
This country is based on controversy and disagreement. Disagreement is what makes our country great. We can even agree to disagree, how cool is that! I understand that Wilson's constituents have entrusted him with their beliefs regarding the Health Care Proposal, but I doubt they entrusted him to call the President a liar to his face while he hides in the mass of the Republican bull pen.
This action of disrespect is very serious and dangerous. This is precisely why I am promoting the platform of manners. I know there was a more fervent and considerate way of making Wilson and his constituents feelings known. But to yell "liar" to the President is outrageous and shouldn't be tolerated. I can only hope SNL makes him the joke he is, but it shouldn't stop there. We should ignore him and his constituents until they vote in someone who can get their feelings known that doesn't resort to petty name calling like the juvenile he is.
What happens after name calling. Guns. Is that what South Carolina's Wilson is purporting? We are walking on a slippery slope. Our country has forgotten the manners of communication and debate. We must listen to all sides and make our choices. Let us not forget that we the people of the United States of America voted Barack Obama into office. For once, we need to convene as a nation. Will it take an alien invasion to unify us?
This country is based on controversy and disagreement. Disagreement is what makes our country great. We can even agree to disagree, how cool is that! I understand that Wilson's constituents have entrusted him with their beliefs regarding the Health Care Proposal, but I doubt they entrusted him to call the President a liar to his face while he hides in the mass of the Republican bull pen.
This action of disrespect is very serious and dangerous. This is precisely why I am promoting the platform of manners. I know there was a more fervent and considerate way of making Wilson and his constituents feelings known. But to yell "liar" to the President is outrageous and shouldn't be tolerated. I can only hope SNL makes him the joke he is, but it shouldn't stop there. We should ignore him and his constituents until they vote in someone who can get their feelings known that doesn't resort to petty name calling like the juvenile he is.
What happens after name calling. Guns. Is that what South Carolina's Wilson is purporting? We are walking on a slippery slope. Our country has forgotten the manners of communication and debate. We must listen to all sides and make our choices. Let us not forget that we the people of the United States of America voted Barack Obama into office. For once, we need to convene as a nation. Will it take an alien invasion to unify us?
Monday, September 7, 2009
A Dose of Manners
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5x5CVOlKWdQ Manners can be like a disease, it can take over your mind. Once you get them, it's hard to get rid of them, they just take over. Manners are like tenderness and kindness. Try a little.
Today is Labor Day. Down here in Key West, it's obvious this Labor Day is different. Sure the retail stores are open just like on every holiday. Living in a tourist town we cater to tourists, but we realize the rest of the country has caught up with us. After the summer of hurricanes, Dennis, Katrina and then Wilma, we got pretty wiped out. Since it was a mandatory evacuation, the service industry packed up their meager belongings and hightailed it to safe ground. Because the island was hit hard, more than half of it flooded, a lot of businesses were closed down for a long time. The service industry went to work up North and realized that they didn't have to work three jobs to afford crappy housing and bad schools with little or no health care. Wow, what a revolution.
I'm thinking the island could be a model for the rest of country and come back fighting armed with integrity. We still need to clean up and maybe even start over. Our school system is bust. We pay our teachers a LOT of money, I know because I asked, but they aren't teaching our children what they need to know because they are too busy teaching them how to score well on FCAT. Also, from the teacher's accounts, the students arrive ill prepared to do their job, which is learning. They're too busy socializing with technology and made stupid by it. Remember when we got calculators and were allowed to use them in school, the wise thinking it would encourage us to become math wizards...it didn't quite work out like that. I am embarrassed to say I can barely remember how to do division! We need to take back our children, teach them manners and with that respect and teach them to become productive human beings. The rest will follow!
Key West is an amazing town. We still believe in one human family and rally when that notion becomes obscured by hooligans. We have a manageable community, but we have big city problems. Unfortunately there is a lot of nepotism here. The community is crying for well educated and experienced leaders, but then when we hire them all we do is complain and make their lives miserable while they try to clean up the mess. We need to put our false pride away and help. The first way is with respect. Let's respect everyone trying to do a job and help them out by making it easier for them, not harder and let's teach our children respect and manners. To treat others as you would like to be treated.
Be nice today and make a difference.
Got a problem with manners, tell me about it: amandapipersmith@aol.com
Today is Labor Day. Down here in Key West, it's obvious this Labor Day is different. Sure the retail stores are open just like on every holiday. Living in a tourist town we cater to tourists, but we realize the rest of the country has caught up with us. After the summer of hurricanes, Dennis, Katrina and then Wilma, we got pretty wiped out. Since it was a mandatory evacuation, the service industry packed up their meager belongings and hightailed it to safe ground. Because the island was hit hard, more than half of it flooded, a lot of businesses were closed down for a long time. The service industry went to work up North and realized that they didn't have to work three jobs to afford crappy housing and bad schools with little or no health care. Wow, what a revolution.
I'm thinking the island could be a model for the rest of country and come back fighting armed with integrity. We still need to clean up and maybe even start over. Our school system is bust. We pay our teachers a LOT of money, I know because I asked, but they aren't teaching our children what they need to know because they are too busy teaching them how to score well on FCAT. Also, from the teacher's accounts, the students arrive ill prepared to do their job, which is learning. They're too busy socializing with technology and made stupid by it. Remember when we got calculators and were allowed to use them in school, the wise thinking it would encourage us to become math wizards...it didn't quite work out like that. I am embarrassed to say I can barely remember how to do division! We need to take back our children, teach them manners and with that respect and teach them to become productive human beings. The rest will follow!
Key West is an amazing town. We still believe in one human family and rally when that notion becomes obscured by hooligans. We have a manageable community, but we have big city problems. Unfortunately there is a lot of nepotism here. The community is crying for well educated and experienced leaders, but then when we hire them all we do is complain and make their lives miserable while they try to clean up the mess. We need to put our false pride away and help. The first way is with respect. Let's respect everyone trying to do a job and help them out by making it easier for them, not harder and let's teach our children respect and manners. To treat others as you would like to be treated.
Be nice today and make a difference.
Got a problem with manners, tell me about it: amandapipersmith@aol.com
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Movie Manners
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZh_2uRU5R0 I just saw the same movie...but I think I was in a different theatre. I did have the usually obnoxious people around me too. I just don't get it. People, do you think you're at home watching on television? Didn't you pay for your tickets? I don't know about you, but $25. for two movie tickets is pretty freakin expensive and I don't feel like having my movie experience ruined by ill-mannered people!
Must you talk? Last I knew, movies were meant to be watched and listened to...even the foreign films. SHUT UP!!!!! Or leave the theater and go to a coffee house. Must you chew with your mouth open? Good theaters give you a container for your candy in a crinkly bag, so you don't make noise when dipping your hand in to get your candy, but even so, chomping with your mouth open makes milkduds loud. Close your mouth. Slurping. Guess what, your drink is finished when nothing comes out of thes staw.
YES, please turn off your cell phone. Please don't answer it and then proceed to try and tell the caller you can't talk, you're in a movie. Turn it OFF or go to a coffee house and wait for the call.
Do not talk to your neighbor explaing all the details, wondering who the actor is and where you've seen him or what you think the twist or plot line is going to be unless you're sitting next to a blind person...seriously, I did that once, go to a coffee house to discuss.
Remember your manners, just because it's dark doesn't mean I don't know who you are.
Manners for everyday situations.
xoxoAmanda
Must you talk? Last I knew, movies were meant to be watched and listened to...even the foreign films. SHUT UP!!!!! Or leave the theater and go to a coffee house. Must you chew with your mouth open? Good theaters give you a container for your candy in a crinkly bag, so you don't make noise when dipping your hand in to get your candy, but even so, chomping with your mouth open makes milkduds loud. Close your mouth. Slurping. Guess what, your drink is finished when nothing comes out of thes staw.
YES, please turn off your cell phone. Please don't answer it and then proceed to try and tell the caller you can't talk, you're in a movie. Turn it OFF or go to a coffee house and wait for the call.
Do not talk to your neighbor explaing all the details, wondering who the actor is and where you've seen him or what you think the twist or plot line is going to be unless you're sitting next to a blind person...seriously, I did that once, go to a coffee house to discuss.
Remember your manners, just because it's dark doesn't mean I don't know who you are.
Manners for everyday situations.
xoxoAmanda
Friday, September 4, 2009
Men are sloppy.....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-mVuWxlWIeY So what's new? I just returned from NYC and a diversity of bad and good manners. But the plane ride home was the culmination of ridiculousness. I was lucky enough to travel first class, thanks to mileage. Why do I always forget it's usually the ones accustomed to luxury that are the rudest? There was a guy in front of me that reminded me of what narcissism means. He was kind of handsome in that Euro-trash way, and ever demanding, but really...did we all have to hear all of his voice mails on speaker phone? There weren't even any interesting ones from women or men describing any sexual escapes real or imagined. I should have known when he reclined his seat all the way back, luckily there is some room in first class and I am petite. Even the flight attendant was annoyed with his silliness and his finger snapping attention grabbing.
Thank goodness the flight was only 2 and 1/2 hours and the food was actually good. Sometimes American Airlines gets it right. But I gotta say...I will write the book on travel manners. So watch out you people who line up an hour before they call the flight that are not even Priority boarders. GET OUT OF THE WAY!!!!! Unless of course you are flying Southwest, and why would anyone do that to themselves?
Manners for everyday situations,
xoxoAmanda
Thank goodness the flight was only 2 and 1/2 hours and the food was actually good. Sometimes American Airlines gets it right. But I gotta say...I will write the book on travel manners. So watch out you people who line up an hour before they call the flight that are not even Priority boarders. GET OUT OF THE WAY!!!!! Unless of course you are flying Southwest, and why would anyone do that to themselves?
Manners for everyday situations,
xoxoAmanda
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iiAO71w8MeM I think Dean himself needs a few manners or at least a diction class and loose the um's. I can't belive he's a student teacher and to top that off he sleeps on the subway...that in itself is bad manners. I don't think this video covers good manners at all. It's more about him complaining about the other riders when he himself is a bad example. He needs to relax and not be the first one at the door to get off. Does he step aside for riders to get off when he's waiting to get on?
Dean, remember to behave like you'd like others to behave. Do not sleep on the train. Do not try and be first. There is time for everyone to get on and off. Don't forget to offer your seat to ladies or the elderly or infirm. Do not spit your gum out or tuck it under the seat, do not spit period! Do not litter. I am crazy about this one...PEOPLE stop littering!
Here's a good one. Put a smile on your face. You'll be amazed at how people treat you positively.
Manners for everyday situations.
xoxoAmanda
Dean, remember to behave like you'd like others to behave. Do not sleep on the train. Do not try and be first. There is time for everyone to get on and off. Don't forget to offer your seat to ladies or the elderly or infirm. Do not spit your gum out or tuck it under the seat, do not spit period! Do not litter. I am crazy about this one...PEOPLE stop littering!
Here's a good one. Put a smile on your face. You'll be amazed at how people treat you positively.
Manners for everyday situations.
xoxoAmanda
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
good morning
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWcsq2w8fwI This is unusual for me to post early in the morning unless I haven't been to sleep yet, but I thought this video was so nice and calming. I don't think most families wake up to this kind of joy anymore, if ever. I remember when I was a kid and I was lucky to get a bowl of stale cereal. My Mom did offer me eggs, but I thought eggs were gross. I'm still not crazy about them unless they're deviled. Anyway, the dog was always barking, my brothers were always rushing off to school or swim practice and my dad was hurrying to do 'rounds'. He was a pediatrician and my Mom was just trying to get us all out of the house.
I have found that when we rise at the time our body clock wants us to rise we are very refreshed and relaxed, but unless you're a struggling writer like me, when do you get to sleep on your schedule. And now with all the technology accosting us as soon as our eyelids open...
Also, if you can take a bath instead of a shower you'll find that you wake happier. It also helps to have someone bring you coffee and glazed donuts in bed!
Just remember if you're sleeping with someone, a gentle kiss and a good morning are the best way to get someone to rise and shine...or glow....
Manners for everyday situations.
I have found that when we rise at the time our body clock wants us to rise we are very refreshed and relaxed, but unless you're a struggling writer like me, when do you get to sleep on your schedule. And now with all the technology accosting us as soon as our eyelids open...
Also, if you can take a bath instead of a shower you'll find that you wake happier. It also helps to have someone bring you coffee and glazed donuts in bed!
Just remember if you're sleeping with someone, a gentle kiss and a good morning are the best way to get someone to rise and shine...or glow....
Manners for everyday situations.
Thursday, August 27, 2009
A parent's nightmare.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqMw4Au71bU This is what all parents stress out about, but as you can see, every parent has gone through it and sympathizes with you. Don't be afraid to say NO to your kids. You're doing them a favor and after they try this once, they'll never go through with it again, it didn't work and it's too much trouble. I really laughed out loud when I saw this, I just wish it was a better quality video.
Manners for everyday situations.
Manners for everyday situations.
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Back to School
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vfEBgeMwaj0 School can be a harrowing place for kids. It's like a war zone, avoiding trip wires, bouncing betty's and all kinds of devices planted to make you look like a fool, stupid, nerdy and just out of it.
Avoid the egotistical girls and guys who are so in to themselves they don't realize they live on a planet with zillions of others. Be your self. Have a good attitude. Breathe and have fun. School is a great time to experiment. Yes, experiment with everything and find out who you want to be. Just don't hurt anyone along the way, including yourself. You have a great big fabulous future out there and you get to open the present and find out what you win.
Questions...you know where to find me: http://www.amandapipersmith@aol.com
Manners for everyday situations.
Avoid the egotistical girls and guys who are so in to themselves they don't realize they live on a planet with zillions of others. Be your self. Have a good attitude. Breathe and have fun. School is a great time to experiment. Yes, experiment with everything and find out who you want to be. Just don't hurt anyone along the way, including yourself. You have a great big fabulous future out there and you get to open the present and find out what you win.
Questions...you know where to find me: http://www.amandapipersmith@aol.com
Manners for everyday situations.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
More Houseguests
The New York Times had a great article on house guests today, Thursday. I have tried to paste the link onto my blog, but not successful. The permalink didn't work for me. Technical difficulties. I am so tired of technical difficulties. Everything you can do nowadays with computers and phones is so tempting, but it only works half the time for me.
Anyway, read the article and stay in a hotel. Personally, I love hotels. I'd stay in a hotel any day. I'd like to live in a hotel. Room service, your bed gets made everyday, you can send your clothes out to be cleaned without leaving your room. It's all so civilized.
The title of the article is: It's August, They're Coming For You; it's in the Home and Garden section. Fabulous
Anyway, read the article and stay in a hotel. Personally, I love hotels. I'd stay in a hotel any day. I'd like to live in a hotel. Room service, your bed gets made everyday, you can send your clothes out to be cleaned without leaving your room. It's all so civilized.
The title of the article is: It's August, They're Coming For You; it's in the Home and Garden section. Fabulous
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
House Guests
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50tKMefwdYE
This clip is in Korean, but you get the message. House Guests are never good. It doesn't matter who they are, they disrupt your life. Okay, sometimes, if you are going through a divorce or just need companionship they can be wonderful, as long as they are the perfect House Guest.
Who is the perfect House Guest? No one...okay, maybe not perfect, but at least one who will be asked back. Here are some really good suggestions...no rules because as you know, manners is not about rules, it's about communication.
The first suggestion is: Remember you are a guest in someone else's home.
#2 Be intuitive. Help remove dinner plates. Set the table, sweep the driveway, offer to help. If you have a special talent, ironing...offer it!
#3 Take everyone out to dinner, lunch, ice cream, drinks, something...
#4 Bring presents for everyone, especially pets and children.
#5 Do your own thing, do not expect your guest to wait on you and entertain you. But do not take any vehicle unless offered and you know it's of no inconvenience.
#6 Really important: Remember, you are a guest in someone else's home!
Have a great summer, lock your doors, don't answer your cell phone, buy a watermelon and have a squirt-gun fight.
Summer is almost over.
This clip is in Korean, but you get the message. House Guests are never good. It doesn't matter who they are, they disrupt your life. Okay, sometimes, if you are going through a divorce or just need companionship they can be wonderful, as long as they are the perfect House Guest.
Who is the perfect House Guest? No one...okay, maybe not perfect, but at least one who will be asked back. Here are some really good suggestions...no rules because as you know, manners is not about rules, it's about communication.
The first suggestion is: Remember you are a guest in someone else's home.
#2 Be intuitive. Help remove dinner plates. Set the table, sweep the driveway, offer to help. If you have a special talent, ironing...offer it!
#3 Take everyone out to dinner, lunch, ice cream, drinks, something...
#4 Bring presents for everyone, especially pets and children.
#5 Do your own thing, do not expect your guest to wait on you and entertain you. But do not take any vehicle unless offered and you know it's of no inconvenience.
#6 Really important: Remember, you are a guest in someone else's home!
Have a great summer, lock your doors, don't answer your cell phone, buy a watermelon and have a squirt-gun fight.
Summer is almost over.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Julia Child and Manners
I just saw the film Julia & Julie. It was adorable, which isn't a word I usually like to use as it's a bit saccharin for my taste, but it just was. I don't think Julia Child would've liked the film, but for those of us who think of her as the perfect woman as Julie does, will. Just watching the fabulous scenery in Paris and the amazing meals being made, your mouth waters. Such fun.
Julia Child did teach Americans how to cook French food and thank goodness for that. She opened up not only the doors of ovens, but the doors into how people eat and share meals and why this is so important. Life was much simpler then when this book came out. We didn't have the Internet, cell phones, video games etc. Our families were expected to partake in at least the dinner meal together. Now, parents are struggling for time with their children, not because of work, but because of technology.
Turn everything off one night a week. Light the candles, pour some wine and enjoy a family meal or a dinner for two or even just yourself and savor every bite and think about the day and what went right. Talk about the day with your children or partner, laugh, cry and then laugh again. Then pat yourself on the back and kiss the cook. Don't forget to clean up.
This is what good manners is about: communication.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=shxl6g3RyH8 Enjoy.
Julia Child did teach Americans how to cook French food and thank goodness for that. She opened up not only the doors of ovens, but the doors into how people eat and share meals and why this is so important. Life was much simpler then when this book came out. We didn't have the Internet, cell phones, video games etc. Our families were expected to partake in at least the dinner meal together. Now, parents are struggling for time with their children, not because of work, but because of technology.
Turn everything off one night a week. Light the candles, pour some wine and enjoy a family meal or a dinner for two or even just yourself and savor every bite and think about the day and what went right. Talk about the day with your children or partner, laugh, cry and then laugh again. Then pat yourself on the back and kiss the cook. Don't forget to clean up.
This is what good manners is about: communication.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=shxl6g3RyH8 Enjoy.
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Street Eating Manners
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10EqKO2H30E
Manners for everyday situations is about just that. In this day and time we are subject to all different kinds of situations. For instance: Street eating and food fights. What to do?
I say if everyone is gung ho....go for it. Of course you could bow out, but then you'd be a stick in the mud. When in Rome, do as the Romans do. When eating in the street, eat in the street. When a food fight breaks out...enjoy, put away all your hang ups and have fun...just do not hurt anyone and throw silver ware, apples or corn cobs. Only soft foods that will splat or bounce off gently.
Here's where the manners come in...EVERYONE needs to help clean up or chip in to pay for someone to clean up.
Manners for everyday situations...I promise.
Manners for everyday situations is about just that. In this day and time we are subject to all different kinds of situations. For instance: Street eating and food fights. What to do?
I say if everyone is gung ho....go for it. Of course you could bow out, but then you'd be a stick in the mud. When in Rome, do as the Romans do. When eating in the street, eat in the street. When a food fight breaks out...enjoy, put away all your hang ups and have fun...just do not hurt anyone and throw silver ware, apples or corn cobs. Only soft foods that will splat or bounce off gently.
Here's where the manners come in...EVERYONE needs to help clean up or chip in to pay for someone to clean up.
Manners for everyday situations...I promise.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Wedding Manners
YouTube - CLASSIC Wedding Entrance: "http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2EypojAng8"
Weddings are celebrations. It's too bad many of them are so staid and somber. Here is a fabulous example of fun for both the participants and the guests. Manners are about communication and socialization that is polite, enjoyable and fun.
If you open any newspaper or read current issues of magazines you will find numerous articles on behavior and how it is affecting society. We are all seeking a gentler interaction. Humankind depends upon interaction and now with so much interaction done through technological vehicles we are losing ourselves.
Help me promote a gentler world through good manners.
Follow my tweets and blog. If you have any questions or comments send them to me at: amandapipersmith@aol.com
No judgement, just solutions.
Manners for everyday situations
Weddings are celebrations. It's too bad many of them are so staid and somber. Here is a fabulous example of fun for both the participants and the guests. Manners are about communication and socialization that is polite, enjoyable and fun.
If you open any newspaper or read current issues of magazines you will find numerous articles on behavior and how it is affecting society. We are all seeking a gentler interaction. Humankind depends upon interaction and now with so much interaction done through technological vehicles we are losing ourselves.
Help me promote a gentler world through good manners.
Follow my tweets and blog. If you have any questions or comments send them to me at: amandapipersmith@aol.com
No judgement, just solutions.
Manners for everyday situations
Saturday, August 1, 2009
Airport MANNERS
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9wBHSxQL-0
I wish travel was as eloquent as this video. Where were all the other people who make it hellish.
You noticed I shouted out the manners part of the airport. What is with people!!!! Traveling is not so bad, but the people who travel make it horrible. Yelling, littering, selfish and downright disgusting.
Number one. PEOPLE, do not get in line until you have been called. Yesterday at LAX at least one third of the plane got in line and NONE of them were first, business class or priority boarders. So we all had to excuse ourselves as we pushed through the congestion.
Number two. DO NOT sit on the floor of the airport directly in the path of where people have to board. Are you joking me teenagers! Move out of the way, I have bags to roll and places to go.
Number three. Do you really need your seat reclined when you're eating. I don't know, but I thought only Jews did that on Rosh Hashanah. I see you in front of me trying to sit up straight trying to eat, but can't because....your seat is reclined in my lap.
Number four. You, sitting behind me, have given me whiplash with grabbing so hard on my seat when you got up and then letting go and your child has given my partner kidney damage from kicking it.
Number five. Unfortunately even my seatmate was an accomplice on this flight. He got up to use the facilities, of course I had to get out first because I was sitting on the aisle and then for some bizarre reason he put his full glass of soda in my seat underneath a blanket and of course I sat on it. This was in the first hour of a 5 hour flight.
To many numbers to list.
The flight attendants were lovely. I'd just like to make that point. They did their job well, were polite and very helpful. I don't think I could be as pleasant dealing with some of the issues they had to deal with...so kudos to them.
Traveling can be long and tiresome. But if we all had a little respect for one another and didn't treat our travel as if we were the only ones traveling and therefore could act and do what we wanted, it would be a lot better.
Manners for everyday situations.
I wish travel was as eloquent as this video. Where were all the other people who make it hellish.
You noticed I shouted out the manners part of the airport. What is with people!!!! Traveling is not so bad, but the people who travel make it horrible. Yelling, littering, selfish and downright disgusting.
Number one. PEOPLE, do not get in line until you have been called. Yesterday at LAX at least one third of the plane got in line and NONE of them were first, business class or priority boarders. So we all had to excuse ourselves as we pushed through the congestion.
Number two. DO NOT sit on the floor of the airport directly in the path of where people have to board. Are you joking me teenagers! Move out of the way, I have bags to roll and places to go.
Number three. Do you really need your seat reclined when you're eating. I don't know, but I thought only Jews did that on Rosh Hashanah. I see you in front of me trying to sit up straight trying to eat, but can't because....your seat is reclined in my lap.
Number four. You, sitting behind me, have given me whiplash with grabbing so hard on my seat when you got up and then letting go and your child has given my partner kidney damage from kicking it.
Number five. Unfortunately even my seatmate was an accomplice on this flight. He got up to use the facilities, of course I had to get out first because I was sitting on the aisle and then for some bizarre reason he put his full glass of soda in my seat underneath a blanket and of course I sat on it. This was in the first hour of a 5 hour flight.
To many numbers to list.
The flight attendants were lovely. I'd just like to make that point. They did their job well, were polite and very helpful. I don't think I could be as pleasant dealing with some of the issues they had to deal with...so kudos to them.
Traveling can be long and tiresome. But if we all had a little respect for one another and didn't treat our travel as if we were the only ones traveling and therefore could act and do what we wanted, it would be a lot better.
Manners for everyday situations.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
E-mail Manners
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmVd8MT9XyA I love HOWCAST. Here is a great clip on e-mail manners. The interesting thing is, that when I sent out the quetion regarding lol and what it refers too, everyone came back with lots of laughs. In this clip they refer to it as lots of love...at least that's how I interpret it. And this is one of the great debacles about e-mails....where is the inference regarding the message. E-mails are easily mis-interpreted.
It used to be when so much of us used actual paper and pen to express our emotion, desires and situation, we had to wait a week or two for confirmation and then we would be dismayed and have to start all over again when our letter was inexplainably mis-interpreted. EGAD! So at least e-mails have time on our side in our age of INSTANT gratification. When in doubt phone or even better yet, have a face to face.
I am still a paper and pen kind of woman, but I find it best to only write when wishing one well, or congratulations etc. I try and stick to subjects that cannot be mis-interpreted and only succeed in giving the reciver of such an old fashioned communique...joy.
Becareful and considerate when e-mailing.
Manners for everyday situations...
It used to be when so much of us used actual paper and pen to express our emotion, desires and situation, we had to wait a week or two for confirmation and then we would be dismayed and have to start all over again when our letter was inexplainably mis-interpreted. EGAD! So at least e-mails have time on our side in our age of INSTANT gratification. When in doubt phone or even better yet, have a face to face.
I am still a paper and pen kind of woman, but I find it best to only write when wishing one well, or congratulations etc. I try and stick to subjects that cannot be mis-interpreted and only succeed in giving the reciver of such an old fashioned communique...joy.
Becareful and considerate when e-mailing.
Manners for everyday situations...
Monday, July 27, 2009
Electronic Manners
This is going to take several sessions of blog time. But to start, check out this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYLJSp9euj4 Seriously, (I had a big win on Seriously at the races the other day at Del Mar) what does lol stand for? I know of several interpretations. Lots of luck, lots of love and lots of laughs. Texting or text language was created to confuse adults. It was like a secret code for the young with nimble fingers and still is for that matter as the older generation struggles with punctuation, capitalization etc.
When is texting bad manners? IN THE CAR if you're driving. SERIOUSLY, people are dying because of this. Sounds stupid, but true. Texting is bad manners at any social event when you are with others. When you are at dinner or at a movie or in some other social realm of society, put your cell phone away!!!!! Enjoy the person you are with. It's a crazy concept but a really enjoyable one. Texting, like talking on your cell is to be done in private or a place that will not interfere with other people's enjoyment.
Manners for everyday situations.
When is texting bad manners? IN THE CAR if you're driving. SERIOUSLY, people are dying because of this. Sounds stupid, but true. Texting is bad manners at any social event when you are with others. When you are at dinner or at a movie or in some other social realm of society, put your cell phone away!!!!! Enjoy the person you are with. It's a crazy concept but a really enjoyable one. Texting, like talking on your cell is to be done in private or a place that will not interfere with other people's enjoyment.
Manners for everyday situations.
Friday, July 24, 2009
Dinner Party Manners 101
Sometimes I am amazed that people are so inconsiderate and don't think about anything but themselves. A dinner party is just that, a party of people that get to enjoy dinner arranged by a host or hostess.
If you are invited to a dinner party, you may not bring anyone unless it is insinuated on the invitation or you speak to the host or hostess in person. It doesn't matter that your girlfriend flew in from Dubai and is only here for one night. If she can't be accomodated at the dinner, then you will have to excuse yourself. People generally have so much china and silverware to go around or perhaps you are the eternal bachelor that your host or hostess has decided is perfect for their cousin Zelda.
Next, you should bring a host or hostess gift. This can be as simple as some cocktail napkins, the cruder the better, flowers or fresh herbs from your garden or a box of their favorite candy. Never bring something you expect to be consumed. If you bring wine, it may not go with what is served and how rude to predict your host will have bad taste in wine. Once a dear friend bought an entire case of different wines! Then of course we opened some because there was enough to choose from and go around.
If you are choking, do not hesitate to spit your food out, preferably into a napkin. Just get it out and wave your hands, make a scene. Far more practical then dying at their dinner table because you are too polite.
If someone places their hand on your thigh that you find repulsive, stab it with your fork if you must, trust me if their making their move under the table they want to keep it secret. Just try not to draw blood.
After the dinner party it is appropriate to call or send a thank you note to your host or hostess. If you didn't bring any gift you may always send flowers, especially if it was an exceptional night...good or bad.
Remember your manners....manners for everyday situations.
If you are invited to a dinner party, you may not bring anyone unless it is insinuated on the invitation or you speak to the host or hostess in person. It doesn't matter that your girlfriend flew in from Dubai and is only here for one night. If she can't be accomodated at the dinner, then you will have to excuse yourself. People generally have so much china and silverware to go around or perhaps you are the eternal bachelor that your host or hostess has decided is perfect for their cousin Zelda.
Next, you should bring a host or hostess gift. This can be as simple as some cocktail napkins, the cruder the better, flowers or fresh herbs from your garden or a box of their favorite candy. Never bring something you expect to be consumed. If you bring wine, it may not go with what is served and how rude to predict your host will have bad taste in wine. Once a dear friend bought an entire case of different wines! Then of course we opened some because there was enough to choose from and go around.
If you are choking, do not hesitate to spit your food out, preferably into a napkin. Just get it out and wave your hands, make a scene. Far more practical then dying at their dinner table because you are too polite.
If someone places their hand on your thigh that you find repulsive, stab it with your fork if you must, trust me if their making their move under the table they want to keep it secret. Just try not to draw blood.
After the dinner party it is appropriate to call or send a thank you note to your host or hostess. If you didn't bring any gift you may always send flowers, especially if it was an exceptional night...good or bad.
Remember your manners....manners for everyday situations.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Bar Manners AGAIN
I guess I didn't cover this in my bar manners column. When you drink excessively, you do not go deaf. Why is it that the more people drink, the louder they become? Yesterday was opening day at the races in Del Mar, Californina. Yes, I expected people to drink and for some to become drunk, but I didn't expect to feel like I was sitting at a roller derby rink when I was at the bar! People were yelling not only to one another at their table within a space of 1 foot, but also across the entire bar. There was one table of men who had their sites set on another table of women all the way across the bar. Instead of going over there and using a pick up line they started to yell at each other. "Hey!" the men called, come over here. "No!" the women yelled, "we're happy over here." "Come on over here!" the men yelled again. "No" the women yelled, that's okay." "We've got drinks!" yelled the men. "We've got drinks too." yelled the women. "We've got better drinks." yelled the men and held up their Budlights." "We've got better drinks here." the women yelled holding up their cosmos. It went on and on until finally the men decided to walk, or vere over to their table.
As the bar emptied out it was quieter for a short spell until the other three tables were now drunk and the yelling began again.
Doesn't anyone know that to get attention...one should whisper.
Manners for everyday situations.
As the bar emptied out it was quieter for a short spell until the other three tables were now drunk and the yelling began again.
Doesn't anyone know that to get attention...one should whisper.
Manners for everyday situations.
Friday, July 17, 2009
pissing in the pool
I'm afraid to go in....public pools have their own set of rules as does hotel pools. There are lots of wily kids let loose in both these places, swimming all day, drinking sodas, belching and yet...I never see any of them use the facilities. SCARY.
I'm not surprised by it though as their parents don't seem to be paying any attention; letting them shove each other underwater, cannonball the lap swimmers and pull girls swimsuits down while they try to get away.
Ah summer at the public pool.
The only difference between the two is that at hotel pools the kids are usually left to fend for themselves with room service.
I'm not surprised by it though as their parents don't seem to be paying any attention; letting them shove each other underwater, cannonball the lap swimmers and pull girls swimsuits down while they try to get away.
Ah summer at the public pool.
The only difference between the two is that at hotel pools the kids are usually left to fend for themselves with room service.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Naked in the Library
Yes, it's true...there are libraries out there that have naked patrons. I think this is well within good manners if one uses a towel on the chair.
Ever wondered how many people use the communal computers? You might want to wash your hands after using one.
Manners should be in everyone's lives. We deserve to live in a polite society. Encourage good manners. Send me a post of someone showing off their good manners for comment.
Remember, we're not talking etiquette...we are talking manners for everyday situations.
Ever wondered how many people use the communal computers? You might want to wash your hands after using one.
Manners should be in everyone's lives. We deserve to live in a polite society. Encourage good manners. Send me a post of someone showing off their good manners for comment.
Remember, we're not talking etiquette...we are talking manners for everyday situations.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Show me!
I need to see what's going on in your world and universe. I catch all kinds of crazy manners out there and wonder...is this happening to everyone else.
Send me a video post and I'll post it and comment.
Manners for everyday situations.
xoxoamanda
Send me a video post and I'll post it and comment.
Manners for everyday situations.
xoxoamanda
Friday, July 10, 2009
Be Part of the Manners for Everyday Situations Movement
Send me your posts and your questions and be part of the Manners for Everday Situations Movement.
Aren't you tired of people doing gross and innappropriate things around you? I am. I see it all the time. People so involved with themselves they don't even realize they are in a public place. What has happened to modesty?
In the Dallas Airport there was a woman sitting around like she was watching television at home, in barefeet brushing her hair and talking on her cell phone. Yes she was multitasking, but her feet were not the kind fetishes are made for and the hairbrush thing was out of control, then she pulled all the hair out of the brush and let it fall to the carpet!!!!
Who are these people and should they have a place in our society?
So I challenge you, to send me your videos to post on my sites and get the word out...
Aren't you tired of people doing gross and innappropriate things around you? I am. I see it all the time. People so involved with themselves they don't even realize they are in a public place. What has happened to modesty?
In the Dallas Airport there was a woman sitting around like she was watching television at home, in barefeet brushing her hair and talking on her cell phone. Yes she was multitasking, but her feet were not the kind fetishes are made for and the hairbrush thing was out of control, then she pulled all the hair out of the brush and let it fall to the carpet!!!!
Who are these people and should they have a place in our society?
So I challenge you, to send me your videos to post on my sites and get the word out...
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
More Feet
I am not really obsessed with feet, but shoes. Everyone should cover their feet appropriately. I generally wear stillettos except to the beach where I wear flip-flops. The correct shoes for the correct occasion are just as important as good manners.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGoIlXKTsP0
I don't find bare feet a problem on planes, except if they smell. I would NEVER go to the toilette bare foot, especially with long pants. Gross
If you have a manner question to be answered, e-mail me at: amandapipersmith@aol.com and put manners in the subject.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGoIlXKTsP0
I don't find bare feet a problem on planes, except if they smell. I would NEVER go to the toilette bare foot, especially with long pants. Gross
If you have a manner question to be answered, e-mail me at: amandapipersmith@aol.com and put manners in the subject.
Monday, July 6, 2009
shopping for shoes?
Can you imagine what the poor shoe salesperson goes through. For the ultimate bad manners in shoe shopping check out my twitter post at amandasmanners or facebook me and become my friend.
Next time you go shoe shopping, try and put yourself in the clerks position.
Next time you go shoe shopping, try and put yourself in the clerks position.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Spitting is never good manners
Why do men spit? I don't understand it. Women swallow...men spit.
Today I was coming out of a building when a boy/man, probably about 16, hawked a flugi across the driveway. It was disgusting, not only watching the spitwad fly across the asphalt, but hearing the sound effect that went along with it. To top it off the boy/man was wearing a ladybug costume.
I know it's worse manners to point out when someone is displaying bad manners, but I felt that besides the bad manners of spitting he wasn't acting appropriately for a ladybug. So that's exactly how I put it....Ahem....I really think that spitting is inappropriate for a ladybug.
Spitting is only appropriate when brushing one's teeth or spitting out poisonous venom.
And when dressed in costume...one must behave in character of the costume.
The real question was: Why was this boy/man wearing a ladybug costume to begin with?
Today I was coming out of a building when a boy/man, probably about 16, hawked a flugi across the driveway. It was disgusting, not only watching the spitwad fly across the asphalt, but hearing the sound effect that went along with it. To top it off the boy/man was wearing a ladybug costume.
I know it's worse manners to point out when someone is displaying bad manners, but I felt that besides the bad manners of spitting he wasn't acting appropriately for a ladybug. So that's exactly how I put it....Ahem....I really think that spitting is inappropriate for a ladybug.
Spitting is only appropriate when brushing one's teeth or spitting out poisonous venom.
And when dressed in costume...one must behave in character of the costume.
The real question was: Why was this boy/man wearing a ladybug costume to begin with?
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Everyday Manners
Why do Mothers of young children insist on talking about bodily functions and other self absorbed subjects that only another mother of a young child would be interested in talking about?
The irony here is that most mothers complain that all they talk about is children. These women need to read the news online. If they would only read the headlines that would be a tremendous improvement on their conversational capabilities. Maybe they could turn off the oldies for children CD or watch the news instead of Sprout and learn one new current fact. If that is too much then they could read a billboard or two as they are driving their child too and from daycare. Something is wrong when a Moms idea of entertainment is watching her 18 month old son attempt to sing Spiderman....
These young Mothers have a huge affect on our world. They are the main consumers of our economy and cultural contibutors...egad...we are in trouble. No wonder Disney has existed for almost a century...they appeal to these women who were once physicists, doctors, lawyers and artists.
Brainwashing is very bad manners.
The irony here is that most mothers complain that all they talk about is children. These women need to read the news online. If they would only read the headlines that would be a tremendous improvement on their conversational capabilities. Maybe they could turn off the oldies for children CD or watch the news instead of Sprout and learn one new current fact. If that is too much then they could read a billboard or two as they are driving their child too and from daycare. Something is wrong when a Moms idea of entertainment is watching her 18 month old son attempt to sing Spiderman....
These young Mothers have a huge affect on our world. They are the main consumers of our economy and cultural contibutors...egad...we are in trouble. No wonder Disney has existed for almost a century...they appeal to these women who were once physicists, doctors, lawyers and artists.
Brainwashing is very bad manners.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Baby it's hot outside!
Oh I know some of you live in NYC where the weather has been less than summerlike, but down south it's hot. We've had record heat. Being uncomfortable is when people forget their manners and tempers flare! Try and remain cool. People often comment on the fact that I don't perspire...or dew, the correct term for a woman. It's because I mentally think I'm cool...a cocktail helps also.
Let's try and remember to keep our cool and be curteous of others so they'll be curteous to us. Don't push or shove, don't snipe or snicker...smile. Think of a nice place, or a nice person. It'll show on your face and then others will treat you accordingly. But remember to pay attention, don't go off in La La land, people get annoyed if they ask you the same question three times...I know from experience.
Have a wonderful day and remember your manners! Check out my tweet at: amandasmanners or facebook me at: facebook/amandapipersmith.
Let's try and remember to keep our cool and be curteous of others so they'll be curteous to us. Don't push or shove, don't snipe or snicker...smile. Think of a nice place, or a nice person. It'll show on your face and then others will treat you accordingly. But remember to pay attention, don't go off in La La land, people get annoyed if they ask you the same question three times...I know from experience.
Have a wonderful day and remember your manners! Check out my tweet at: amandasmanners or facebook me at: facebook/amandapipersmith.
Monday, June 22, 2009
manners for everyday situations
I posted a video link for arm wrestling etiquette, I figure that all of my darling followers should be prepared for any and everything...isn't that some rule of boyscouting...it's a good one anyway. Check it out on my twitter: amandasmanners or become a friend on Facebook/amandapipersmith.
I am getting a bit dismayed at the assortment of etiquette videos out there and thinking I may have to start making my own. Some of the people take themselves so seriously and frankly do not have a clue as too what they are talking about!
Not everyone knows about etiquette. Just because you marry someone whose family has bought a title, doesn't mean you know about etiquette! Etiquette is like style, some of it can be learned, but most of it comes from the within...your source.
That said, do not be fooled by imitation....Amanda Piper-Smith is unequivically the 'real deal'.
Questions.....bring them on!
I am getting a bit dismayed at the assortment of etiquette videos out there and thinking I may have to start making my own. Some of the people take themselves so seriously and frankly do not have a clue as too what they are talking about!
Not everyone knows about etiquette. Just because you marry someone whose family has bought a title, doesn't mean you know about etiquette! Etiquette is like style, some of it can be learned, but most of it comes from the within...your source.
That said, do not be fooled by imitation....Amanda Piper-Smith is unequivically the 'real deal'.
Questions.....bring them on!
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Manners for Father's Day
It's Father's Day....I couldn't find any etiquette videos to post on my twitter or Facebook page, so I posted the amazing video of the Professor's Last Lecture on twitter...amandasmanners. If you haven't seen it, go to youtube and watch. If you can't be with your Dad today for whatever reason, it's a good thing to watch.
I hope everyone called or sent their Father a card or note to remind him you're thinking of him. Also, if there is a special man in your life that has helped you like a father you should let him know. Sometimes friends and uncles can be more helpful than our father or make more of an impact upon our lives.
Even if you don't have a good relationship or a relationship at all, your Father is your Father. Maybe he has wished at times things could be different between you. It doesn't matter who makes the first step...it's that a step was taken. You don't ever want to regret not making an effort. Life is very short.
Happy Father's Day to all those men out there who make a difference. You are loved.
I hope everyone called or sent their Father a card or note to remind him you're thinking of him. Also, if there is a special man in your life that has helped you like a father you should let him know. Sometimes friends and uncles can be more helpful than our father or make more of an impact upon our lives.
Even if you don't have a good relationship or a relationship at all, your Father is your Father. Maybe he has wished at times things could be different between you. It doesn't matter who makes the first step...it's that a step was taken. You don't ever want to regret not making an effort. Life is very short.
Happy Father's Day to all those men out there who make a difference. You are loved.
Friday, June 19, 2009
Manners for Friday
It's Friday! Everyone is usually high energy and ready for the weekend for downtime. Hense the coined acronym TGIF...good gosh, they even named a restaurant for it. If you check out my tweet at amandasmanners or my facebook page, amandapipersmith, then you'll see a hilarious video that gets my point across.
Remember be polite and treat people as you would like to be treated. You will be amazed at how good life becomes.
Remember be polite and treat people as you would like to be treated. You will be amazed at how good life becomes.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
manners for everyday people for everyday situations
I just posted a new video link on my facebook page: facebook/amandapipersmith and on my twitter: amandasmanners regarding personal space.
I feel these days with an obvious lack of manners and a pandemic amidst us personal space is important. Manners, are about respect and consideration for people. With manners one can navigate through even the most arduous confrontations.
Some basics: Men do not extend your hand to shake to a woman. Only if a woman extends her hand to you should you shake it. Never shake hands with gloves on, unless in Antarctica or a similar cold climate, but then it could be frowned upon. Do as the natives.
No, you do not have to kiss to greet people and frankly I don't think we should be going around kissing everyone willy nilly. When someone zooms in on me to kiss on the lips that I do not want to kiss on the lips, I turn my head at the last minute so at the worst they kiss my cheek. Please do not lick your lips before kissing a hello. It may make them look attractive, but usually leaves slobber all over the other's cheek and I can say from experience is VERY distasteful. Usually older women do this, I do not know why.
If someone extends their hand to you, but for medical reasons you cannot accept the handshake then by all means a simple declaration of, unfortunately I have arthritis or a medical condition that forbids me to handshake, or causes me great pain to handshake. Frankly, I've wanted to use this when wearing rings and a man with a huge ham hock grabs my hand and pumps it like an over zealous politician! Ouch...do not crush the other's hand it is not a competition, nor leave your hand limp like a dead fish...practice until you get it right. Teach your children or neighbors children to shake hands.
And remember let's be mindful of others. After all manners is about communication.
I feel these days with an obvious lack of manners and a pandemic amidst us personal space is important. Manners, are about respect and consideration for people. With manners one can navigate through even the most arduous confrontations.
Some basics: Men do not extend your hand to shake to a woman. Only if a woman extends her hand to you should you shake it. Never shake hands with gloves on, unless in Antarctica or a similar cold climate, but then it could be frowned upon. Do as the natives.
No, you do not have to kiss to greet people and frankly I don't think we should be going around kissing everyone willy nilly. When someone zooms in on me to kiss on the lips that I do not want to kiss on the lips, I turn my head at the last minute so at the worst they kiss my cheek. Please do not lick your lips before kissing a hello. It may make them look attractive, but usually leaves slobber all over the other's cheek and I can say from experience is VERY distasteful. Usually older women do this, I do not know why.
If someone extends their hand to you, but for medical reasons you cannot accept the handshake then by all means a simple declaration of, unfortunately I have arthritis or a medical condition that forbids me to handshake, or causes me great pain to handshake. Frankly, I've wanted to use this when wearing rings and a man with a huge ham hock grabs my hand and pumps it like an over zealous politician! Ouch...do not crush the other's hand it is not a competition, nor leave your hand limp like a dead fish...practice until you get it right. Teach your children or neighbors children to shake hands.
And remember let's be mindful of others. After all manners is about communication.
Monday, June 15, 2009
everyday etiquette for everyday situations
Yes, there is proper etiquette for using the urinal. I have posted this very informative video on tweet at amandasmanners.
For those of you that do not know the difference, etiquette is the rules for proper behavior and manners is the cultural adjustment. Manners is about being respectful to the situation you are in. For instance it is very BAD manners to point out a breach of etiquette. If you are in France, behave as those who live in France do...try and assimilate and be aware of your host albeit a country or person's etiquette. For some cultures it's perfectly acceptable to burp after a meal, in fact it's required, luckily I've never been to one of those places...I'd have to drink a lot of root beer.
Ask me a question about etiquette or manners and see if you can be the first to stump me.
For those of you that do not know the difference, etiquette is the rules for proper behavior and manners is the cultural adjustment. Manners is about being respectful to the situation you are in. For instance it is very BAD manners to point out a breach of etiquette. If you are in France, behave as those who live in France do...try and assimilate and be aware of your host albeit a country or person's etiquette. For some cultures it's perfectly acceptable to burp after a meal, in fact it's required, luckily I've never been to one of those places...I'd have to drink a lot of root beer.
Ask me a question about etiquette or manners and see if you can be the first to stump me.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
manners for everyday situations
My recent column in Solares Hill focused on Library manners. Check it out by going online. I know you'll learn something.
Manners are important everywhere you go. Having manners portrays someone who is considerate to think of the other person. It doesn't mean you have to give up who you are and what you believe, in fact if anything, manners give you a stronger platform to build upon. You know the old saying you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar...it's true. Manners is about communication. No one wants your ideas jammed down their throats, even if you ask for their advice. The point is to be courteous and honest. If you can't say something nice then don't say it all...unless you need to tell someone something that will forewarn them or protect them...I'll focus on communicating honestly on my next guest appearance on KONK 1630am radio on Wednesday at 9:30. You can listen online.
Until then, if you have any questions or comments, let me know. My e-mail address is: amandapipersmith@aol.com or tweet me at: amandasmanners or make a new friend and facebook me.
Manners are important everywhere you go. Having manners portrays someone who is considerate to think of the other person. It doesn't mean you have to give up who you are and what you believe, in fact if anything, manners give you a stronger platform to build upon. You know the old saying you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar...it's true. Manners is about communication. No one wants your ideas jammed down their throats, even if you ask for their advice. The point is to be courteous and honest. If you can't say something nice then don't say it all...unless you need to tell someone something that will forewarn them or protect them...I'll focus on communicating honestly on my next guest appearance on KONK 1630am radio on Wednesday at 9:30. You can listen online.
Until then, if you have any questions or comments, let me know. My e-mail address is: amandapipersmith@aol.com or tweet me at: amandasmanners or make a new friend and facebook me.
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