Dinner Party Manners 101

Sometimes I am amazed that people are so inconsiderate and don't think about anything but themselves. A dinner party is just that, a party of people that get to enjoy dinner arranged by a host or hostess.

If you are invited to a dinner party, you may not bring anyone unless it is insinuated on the invitation or you speak to the host or hostess in person. It doesn't matter that your girlfriend flew in from Dubai and is only here for one night. If she can't be accomodated at the dinner, then you will have to excuse yourself. People generally have so much china and silverware to go around or perhaps you are the eternal bachelor that your host or hostess has decided is perfect for their cousin Zelda.

Next, you should bring a host or hostess gift. This can be as simple as some cocktail napkins, the cruder the better, flowers or fresh herbs from your garden or a box of their favorite candy. Never bring something you expect to be consumed. If you bring wine, it may not go with what is served and how rude to predict your host will have bad taste in wine. Once a dear friend bought an entire case of different wines! Then of course we opened some because there was enough to choose from and go around.

If you are choking, do not hesitate to spit your food out, preferably into a napkin. Just get it out and wave your hands, make a scene. Far more practical then dying at their dinner table because you are too polite.

If someone places their hand on your thigh that you find repulsive, stab it with your fork if you must, trust me if their making their move under the table they want to keep it secret. Just try not to draw blood.

After the dinner party it is appropriate to call or send a thank you note to your host or hostess. If you didn't bring any gift you may always send flowers, especially if it was an exceptional night...good or bad.

Remember your manners....manners for everyday situations.